Uphold real men as heroes, not bullies-Kangana Ranaut
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Posted by Fenil Seta
BOMBAY TIMES (September 11, 2016)
Kangana Ranaut revisits the
ordeal her sister Rangoli went through and shares her views on the
landmark judgement. “I feel that this judgement is a good sign and an
example for everyone who would even think of a heinous act like this.
But I still think that this is not the answer, and hanging people is not
enough. Our society is responsible for cultivating such a mindset. For
men, rejection is a very big deal. Also, boys in our country need to be
taught to respect women from the beginning. The learning and upbringing
begins at home. We need to uphold real men with right values, and not
cowards, as role models for society. Men like my brother-in-law (Ajay
Chandel, Rangoli's husband) are real men, and in my eyes, heroes. We
shouldn't glorify men who bully or use other forms of mental abuse to
push women to extremes like suicide. These bullies have to be called
out,“ she says.
At the time the unfortunate incident happened to Rangoli, Kangana had just completed her first film Gangster. On hearing the news she felt anger and pain, but she knew she had no time to waste and weep. She recalled, “I was in the gym on the treadmill when I saw the news flash on television. I couldn't believe what I was watching. Rangoli was just 23 and in the university. She is a microbiologist and a topper. The man who attacked her had poured almost one litre of acid on her, it was ghastly and shocking. At that point in my career, I was struggling and going through a tough time in Mumbai, but at least I could afford treatment. There are so many women who can't afford to do this and lose hope. Right after this incident I insisted that Rangoli should come to Mumbai to get treated. My family was reluctant because back then, I didn't share a great relationship with them. But I insisted and brought her here. This tragedy didn't make Rangoli and me look good as we were judged for it. Like what happens with rape survivors, there is a lot of stigma attached to survivors of an acid attack. Forget the physical trauma, you can't imagine the mental scar it can leave on a girl. Some people told my father, 'Beti ko itna padhaoge toh aisa hi hoga.' While all this was happening, there was no time to cry or react. One day after six months, I buried my face in Rangoli's lap and cried. Fortunately, my brother-in-law came along and supported her like a rock. They knew each other since first grade and he always liked her. Rangoli has been happily married for four years now. But I know that not every story turns out this way and the pain and hurt is too deep to ever forget.“
At the time the unfortunate incident happened to Rangoli, Kangana had just completed her first film Gangster. On hearing the news she felt anger and pain, but she knew she had no time to waste and weep. She recalled, “I was in the gym on the treadmill when I saw the news flash on television. I couldn't believe what I was watching. Rangoli was just 23 and in the university. She is a microbiologist and a topper. The man who attacked her had poured almost one litre of acid on her, it was ghastly and shocking. At that point in my career, I was struggling and going through a tough time in Mumbai, but at least I could afford treatment. There are so many women who can't afford to do this and lose hope. Right after this incident I insisted that Rangoli should come to Mumbai to get treated. My family was reluctant because back then, I didn't share a great relationship with them. But I insisted and brought her here. This tragedy didn't make Rangoli and me look good as we were judged for it. Like what happens with rape survivors, there is a lot of stigma attached to survivors of an acid attack. Forget the physical trauma, you can't imagine the mental scar it can leave on a girl. Some people told my father, 'Beti ko itna padhaoge toh aisa hi hoga.' While all this was happening, there was no time to cry or react. One day after six months, I buried my face in Rangoli's lap and cried. Fortunately, my brother-in-law came along and supported her like a rock. They knew each other since first grade and he always liked her. Rangoli has been happily married for four years now. But I know that not every story turns out this way and the pain and hurt is too deep to ever forget.“
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