Pregnancy is tough, birth is gruesome and postpartum is hell-Kalki Koechlin
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Kalki Koechlin on turning postpartum exhaustion into mythical creatures, theatre into therapy, and her daughter into a co-writer
Sapna Sarfare (MUMBAI MIRROR; June 14, 2026)
There’s a moment, mid-rehearsal, where Kalki Koechlin stands holding a breast pump the way other actors might hold a sword — gripped, purposeful, faintly absurd. At another point, a colleague is hoisted onto a tabletop, arms thrown skyward. It’s an unlikely tableau, but it captures something true about the indignities of new motherhood.
Koechlin, 42 this year, a Filmfare and National Award winner who has spent two decades being professionally unbothered by other people’s discomfort, says, “Pregnancy is tough, birth is gruesome and postpartum is hell—but more horrifying than all three is society’s completely casual approach to one of the most epic life experiences.”
Much of this — the bluntness, the refusal to prettify — makes its way directly into Belly Of The Beast, the play she’s co-written with director Sheena Khalid for Aadyam Theatre, adapted from her 2021 book, The Elephant In The Womb. The book was written through lockdown, less as a creative ambition than as triage. “It was really therapeutic,” she says.
“Biology is such that you quickly forget — that’s the nature of things. If it wasn’t all written down, I would have probably forgotten how hard it was.” The audience for her candour now includes her six-year-old daughter, Sappho.
“The first drawings of our mythical creatures were done by her,” Koechlin says. “Growing with her, I feel like we’ve become friends now. It’s a wonderful relationship.”
Notes from the field
The five women in Belly Of The Beast — drawn from interviews covering IVF, the severe, often debilitating nausea pregnant women often experience, single motherhood and miscarriage — are deliberately not Koechlin, even though the breast pump in her hand suggests otherwise. “The Elephant In The Womb is my personal experience,” she says, “but this is now about other women, and each of their experiences is vastly different.”
It’s an unusual instinct for a writer adapting her own memoir — to dilute the “I” rather than amplify it — but it tracks with everything else about how Koechlin talks about herself: glancingly, almost reluctantly, as though the interesting part is always someone else’s story.
She’s similarly unsentimental about her own role in shaping the production. Despite having co-written it, she never considered directing. “I’m primarily an actor,” she says, crediting Khalid’s devised process — built in rehearsal, through trial and error, rather than handed down from a script — as something she trusts completely. Off stage, she’s just as resistant to received wisdom. Ask about parenting style — gentle, helicopter, strict, the usual taxonomy — and she shrugs it off entirely.
“I feel like I’m a pretty regular old mother,” she says. “I believe in routine and reliability for my child. That’s what helps them feel safe growing up.” Even the ordinary parts get their due: listening to Sappho narrate the plot of a cartoon she has zero interest in, Koechlin says, is simply the job. “That relationship of being curious, listening, and being present — that’s really the best a parent can do.”
It’s the same matter-of-factness she brings to talking about herself. Asked recently about a stretch of heartbreak-induced insomnia, her prescription was simple: therapy, rest, distance from the noise. “Sometimes you just need to stay still and take care of your spirit.” She’s been in therapy for years, she says, the same way someone might mention a gym routine.
Holding pattern
Koechlin’s process on set has shifted, too — away from intensity, toward presence. “I used to spend a lot of time being in character — I wouldn’t want to talk to people,” she says. “But now I find that very exhausting. I like to prep well, then be more interactive, and only get into character a couple of minutes before the shot.”
It seems to be the throughline of Koechlin’s 40s so far, whether she’d put it that way or not. Right now, none of the other plans — the production company, the musical she’d love to do, the Joachim Trier film she wishes she’d been cast in — are getting much airtime. “Belly Of The Beast is my entire universe,” she says. “I cannot think beyond it.” Given that her six-year-old’s monster drawings are now part of the set design, it’s hard to imagine she’d want to.
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