Priya Gupta (BOMBAY TIMES; February 14, 2015)

Aayush Sharma, 24, and Arpita Khan, 26, may come from different backgrounds, but both belong to families that are affluent and well known. While Arpita is more emotional, sensitive, straightforward and outgoing, Aayush is more reserved and diplomatic and while both have strong likes and dislikes and are strong-headed and opinionated, Arpita is more forgiving than he is. Both think that they are difficult to live with and emotionally dominating, but they are finally best buddies who give into each other. While Arpita makes the choice on holidays and food, Aayush gets to decide on the movies they watch. They feel blessed with all the love and attention they got during their wedding and are currently enjoying their honeymoon period. They have travelled to London, New York, Dubai and now Maldives, but their most special outing remains with Salman Khan in Mandawa, where they spent a week with him. While much is known about Arpita due to her superstar brother Salman Khan, not much is known about the reserved boy Aayush, who is equally affluent as her and comes from Mandi's first political family. We bring you excerpts from their first ever interview post marriage.

CONVERSATION WITH ARPITA KHAN SHARMA:

What made you cry at your wed ding during your speech?
For me, it was very emotional obviously. I was moving into another family, but at the same time, my family is my family. When I saw my brothers and my father crying all around me, then there was nothing that I could do. While I could see them all crying, everybody was looking down as no one wanted to have eye contact with anyone else. I didn't want to cry, which is why I didn't do a bidai ceremony, but kept it to a modern wedding.

How does it now feel to manage your own house?
Not very stressful as I used to manage my mother's house for the longest time. Today, my mother manages more or less my house, so, there is a lot of give and take between us and there is no your house or my house. I have a great back-up system so I have nothing to worry about.

Any memories from the marriage?
During my wedding from the pheras to the party, we had another venue, but it started raining. Everyone said it was auspicious, though at that time it didn't seem very auspicious for me as my whole venue had to change. But it was with all the blessings we got.

When did you and Aayush meet?
We met through a common friend and then lost touch in the middle and then again met about two years ago and then started dating.

What do you like the most about him?
He is a very chilled out and sorted person and just lets me be who I am. He is simple to be with. I am a very difficult person to be with as I am not a normal conventional person. I am very strict and stuck to my ways. I am very family-oriented and for me, it is important that everybody has to respect my family.

Who is your biggest support?
My dad is my backbone, Salman bhai's the person who makes me believe that I can walk over this world and nothing can happen to me. Sohail bhai is my protector and my friendly brother. My mum, who has gone through too much, but who always smiled for us to go through anything. And Aayush, the person who has taken on this kind of pressure in marrying me. It's not easy to marry someone who comes from this family.

Were you both overwhelmed with all the attention and love you got during your wedding?
It was quite shocking and overwhelming and you didn't know whether it was intrusive or nice. We belong to a society where a section of people are our well wishers and there is a bunch that is jealous. We also are human beings who feel hurt when people say nasty things on social media. They are comments not called for and I wish people just live and let live and don't keep judging you. My family being filmi are more well known and have a larger than-life image, but without knowing about the other person's background, don't say nasty things. They would say things like, 'Oh, he is married to her because of this or that.' How do you know? May be I have married him for another reason? I don't approve of it and find it disgusting and hurting that you take a dig at somebody, not knowing where they come from. You put up a picture of a holiday and someone says, 'Oh, you are living off her.' That's so regressive and uncool. They forget that he comes from an affluent family, just that they are in politics and not in films. If pictures of where we are travelling, what jewellery we have, what cars is bothering you, don't look at us or follow us, but why comment? Don't look at our blessings as something wrong. They will ask Aayush on Twitter how much money he makes. Well, he is not going to file his income tax returns on Instagram, right?

Why do you follow people to discredit the relationship and abuse and assume that we are so stupid that we have allowed us to make such an ass out of us. I follow Beyonce and am really fond of her and one day I noticed that she too gets bad comments and that made me feel good. Coming from where she does, given that she has achieved so much, there were people who were nobodies still finding fault in her. It's really not needed.

Since Aayush is still training for his Bollywood debut, who runs your house financially?
My father-in-law supports us and he has given us a budget to run our house in. It is so sweet of him to support us and for even having allowed Aayush to have got married at 24 despite him not being settled yet. We have had everything easy on a platter, but he wants Aayush to make it big in his life and not become complacent, so, he has put some restrictions on us. Again, I am very spoilt and have been brought up a certain way and if I don't think it is right to ask my husband for something, I can get it from own money or can get it from Salman bhai. Aayush and me don't look at things as his or mine. It's ours.


CONVERSATION WITH AAYUSH SHARMA:

Talk about your political background.
My grandfather Pandit Sukh Ram was a veteran in Congress and represented Himachal Pradesh from a time when it was not even an influential state. The people of Mandi have loved us so much that past 50 years, we have never lost an election there. My grandfather was the man who got cellphones to India. My father Anil Sharma too is a politician and is currently the Cabinet Minister in Himachal Pradesh for Rural Development, Panchayati Raj and Animal Husbandry. Our family conversations have always been about politics. I have grown up with dos and dont's in public and how to behave in your constituency. We have always been taught that in politics there are no friends and so my family is very reserved. They may not interact with media as much, but they are very conscious of what people think of them. It's easier for me to walk in Mumbai as no one knows me here, but in Mandi, they all know us.

What made you choose Bollywood over politics?
I have always felt that politics is a thankless job. I won't say that I will never join politics, but not for now at least. When I first told my parents that I wanted to become an actor, they did not take me seriously. They felt it was just a phase that would pass. But then after completing my Class XII from DPS RK Puram in Delhi, I moved to Mumbai alone to do my graduation at Jai Hind and had decided that I wanted to become an actor. I wanted to move out at a certain age to learn and handle things myself. And while my parents knew that it would be much easier for me to join politics over wanting to become an actor as no one from my family had done that, they were always supportive towards me. My father doesn't say much, but he has always been there for me. He has never discredited me for choosing this profession or put a time frame for me to be successful. He always says, 'Take your time and learn whatever you can.' He has not made me very comfortable as he does not want me to become complacent, but is still my biggest security.

How different is Bollywood from politics?
People are always judging in both as both are public personalities. They both have power, name, fame and people's admiration and responsibility towards society. The difference is that while in films, you can have friends, in politics, there are no friends.

What do you like the most about Arpita?
She has her opinions and is strong-headed and is not a typical Indian girl and that is good for me. She knows so much about the world and she is my backbone. I love that she is crazy and is more like a guy. She is very caring and that is something she shares with Salman bhai. She is fine and likes to pretend that she is difficult, which she is not. She is selfless and that is very important as I am very selfish. I am a very difficult person to be with. I am very impatient. If I want to do something, I want to do it. I tend to get bratty with her as she pampers me. I was leading a complete bachelor's life before her, where nothing was organised. I can't talk to my father about movies, but with Arpita I can talk about anything. We love each other because we are friends. I sometimes even call her bro. It's like sitting with a guy friend and not being judged. She is also very overtly-protective about me.

Do you have a favourite member in her family?
I have a different equation with each of them, but I have spent a lot of time with Sohail bhai as we used to go to the same gym and I have known him even before I knew Arpita.

Any special memory for you from your wedding celebrations?
What was most special was when they finally announced that she was officially Mrs Sharma