Showing posts with label Samir Soni. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Samir Soni. Show all posts

Samir Soni and I have kept Ahana away from the smartphone-Neelam Kothari


She was just 15 when she made her debut in 1984. Neelam Kothari went on to become a sought-after leading lady, known for her girl-next-door charm, dancing skills and crackling chemistry with Govinda. In 2000, she stepped away from the limelight to focus on her family life and her jewellery designing business, but agreed, albeit reluctantly, to face the camera again for the reality series ‘The Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives’. Mother to a teen now, Neelam spoke to Sidhi Kapoor about mom-guilt and why she allows her daughter to speak her mind
Sidhi Kapoor (THE TIMES OF INDIA; April 13, 2026)

Your daughter has entered her teens. What are some of the challenges you are facing, and how are you trying to navigate them?
To be honest, Ahana just turned 13. I have heard stories that when kids turn teenagers, things really change, but I think I’m dealing with a very sorted kid. From the other stories I have heard, my story is a little different. Ahana is still not into tank tops or make-up. She’s not interested in social media. She doesn’t like to be in the limelight. So, she hasn’t reached that phase yet. Samir (actor-director Samir Soni, her husband) and I have kept her away (from the smartphone). She’s a music lover, so she’s more into that and her books.

As of now, I am not seeing any of those teenage issues. The moods fluctuate a little bit, which I believe is absolutely normal for this age. Apart from that, she’s a good girl. I feel blessed!

How do you balance giving your daughter independence while still setting boundaries and rules?
First of all, sleepovers are a big no. That is something which is not allowed. She’s probably had one sleepover with her childhood friend, who lives in the same building. We have known their parents for years. Honestly speaking, we haven’t really put down any ground rules. It’s difficult to believe, but she’s quite responsible and a conscientious child for her age. Samir and I don’t have to really tell her much. She knows her rights and wrongs pretty well.

What are some essential life skills you’ve taught her?
Parenting when I was growing up and parenting these days is very different. Today, you have to be more of a friend to your child. Even if you say to your child that something is not allowed, you need to have a reason. Today, it’s all about reasoning and giving a logical answer behind what you say to your child. It can’t be “because I said so…”. You need to have logic behind it. Then, being respectful to elders or anyone she meets is very important. Even giving respect to the staff is equally essential. As parents, we are very strict about it. These are small things we have imbued in our daughter. It makes me very proud when people say she is such a brave, well-mannered and sensitive child.

What’s the best parenting advice you have ever received?
I don’t think I have received any advice. I have just learnt all along. Being a friend to your child is the number one thing. Also, allowing your child to speak, whatever it may be, is important. Let them speak their mind and encourage it. There’s so much happening in school, in their mind and their surroundings, so be your child’s best friend. That’s the best thing any parent can do.

As a working mother, how do you divide time between your career and family life?
I go crazy sometimes! Luckily, if I am travelling, Samir is around, and vice versa. He manages and pitches in. It’s during evening time that mom-guilt kicks in. Things become a little more challenging for working mothers. But then it is what it is. Fortunately, Ahana is very cool as she’s seen me working since her childhood. She gets it. If I have to take a long trip abroad, she will jokingly ask, “How much money are you making? As long as you are making good money, it’s fine!” But the mom-guilt will always be there, no matter how understanding the child is.

What about studies? Does she manage on her own?
That’s another thing. There were certain subjects, like math, where we knew there was no negotiating. She was hesitant, and she used to cry when she had to go to classes. Maths gets very challenging in the International Baccalaureate system. But now she’s breezing through. Samir has a finance background, so he used to teach her and help her with homework. I honestly don’t understand anything when it comes to Math. But largely, she manages her studies on her own, so we don’t really have to check on her studies and tests all the time.

What are some non-negotiables for you and Samir?
Respect for family, friends, and staff is of utmost importance to us. We believe that you have got to be around your child, talk to them, understand them, and reason with them. When I feel she’s having a bad day and there’s something going on, I just leave her alone and give her space. Then, in a day or two, she will tell me what happened and why she was upset.

How has motherhood changed you, and what have you learned about yourself through parenting?
A lot of change has happened in my approach to parenting. Earlier, I used to be the strict one. Samir was the lenient one. There are always disagreements at home about small issues like jumping on the sofa. He would be like, “She’s a child. Let her be.” And I would say, “No, it’s not okay.” Now, I think I have succumbed, and we are both on the same page. I have realized it’s not worth it. It’s also because kids of this generation mature way earlier. They are so much more aware and intelligent. Today’s kids are more empathetic, too. I think we owe it to the schools of today. Maybe it’s the new way of teaching at school, though a lot of learning comes from home too.

Any parenting regrets?
I think I have done a good job, if I may say so. I may have been strict in the beginning, but I think it has paid off. Would I do anything different if I look back? No.

I’m tired of being the 12th man-Samir Soni


Samir Soni reflects on his film journey, calls for more layered roles
Tanvi J Trivedi (MUMBAI MIRROR; April 1, 2026)

After more than two decades in films, Samir Soni finds himself at a crossroads. In a recent post, he made it clear that he no longer wishes to remain on the sidelines. “I would rather quit acting than play a good brother, husband, father or any other supporting role. After waiting for over 25 years, it’s my time to play the lead now,” he wrote.

The candid admission reflects a long-building restlessness. Despite being part of notable films like the recent Khuli Kitaab and sharing screen space with some of the industry’s biggest names, Samir says his journey has often felt constrained. “How long will I continue to do supporting roles?” he asks — a question that, by his own account, has lingered for years.

One of his earliest setbacks came with his debut film, China Gate, where much of his role was cut during editing. “On the editing table, my whole role got chopped off,” he recalls. The experience, he says, set a pattern. “The worst part if anything happens on the editing table, the first thing that goes is the supporting character,” he says.

The actor remembers a formative piece of advice from the late Om Puri that shaped his understanding of the craft. “He said, ‘We are supporting actors. Our job is to support the main protagonist and antagonist, to prop up the main leads.’”

While he acknowledges this reality, he admits it can be frustrating. “There’s not that much importance given to the supporting cast. Their job is to make sure the main leads shine,” shares Samir.

Over the years, he has worked alongside stalwarts, holding his own in scenes. Yet, he feels that hasn’t translated into substantial roles. “If indeed I’m that good to stand my own against big actors, how come no one thinks of backing me with a decent character which has more depth?” he asks. Even when he delivers, he adds, the final cut often sidelines his contribution. “You’re just there to be the catalyst to move them forward.”

He sums up his career with a striking cricket analogy: “I’m like a 12th man who never gets to bat. I’ll be in every team but I never get to play a match.” Despite the frustration, Samir remains grateful for the opportunities he has had. “Not many people can boast of playing the son to Amitabh Bachchan and Hema Malini, and years later to Pankaj Kapur and Dimple Kapadia,” he says.

What he now seeks are layered, emotionally complex roles. “I like roles which have more angst, more layered, more complete,” he says, adding, “even non-lead parts can leave a lasting impact if written well.”

I regret not doing Tridev-Neelam


Onkar Kulkarni (BOMBAY TIMES; January 16, 2025)

Neelam came back in the limelight after she appeared in the Bollywood Wives series. The actress who was quite popular in the late 80s and 90s took a break from movies in 2000s. While she’s had quite a few well-known films to her credit, during her course as an actor she regrets letting go of a few of them. One such movie being the Naseeruddin Shah, Sunny Deol starrer Tridev.

As she looks back at the “lost opportunity”, Neelam shares, “I was supposed to do a role in Tridev. The film is known for that Tirchi Topiwale. So, that’s my biggest regret! I regret not doing the film missing out being a part of that song.”

Neelam who was seen in films like Agneepath and Hum Saath Saath Hain feels that it is important to have good numbers associated with your name as an actor. She elaborates saying, “Hit songs always get carried forward from one era to another. Remember my song Aap Ke Aa Jane Se from Khudgarz it’s still so known. So, I feel Tirchi Topiwale could have been another song in my kitty. I mean just look at Saat Samundar Paar. People are still dancing on that number. Like, people from different generations, literally! I mean Chunky Panday (who featured in the song) is still doing shows on that song (laughs).”

Neelam who’s eager to take up interesting work was also seen in web shows like Masaba Masaba and Made In Heaven. In an earlier chat with us she had opened up about the reason behind quitting films. 

She had said, “Back then, I left the industry because I believed my shelf life was over, and I didn’t like the films I was being offered. When I left films, I was almost 30. That was the last time people saw me on screen, and making a comeback in my 50s was a little daunting. But Karan (Johar, maker of Bollywood Wives series) and my husband Samir helped me calm down and pushed me to go for it, and here I am.”

When I go to events and see people recognizing me, it takes me back to my earlier life-Neelam Kothari

Neelam Kothari on reception to Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives:  ‘You cannot ignore us’

Onkar Kulkarni (BOMBAY TIMES; December 18, 2024)

Neelam, a popular face from the ’80s and ’90s, made her showbiz comeback with a reality show on OTT. The series Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives brought her back into the spotlight, which translated into interesting opportunities. However, instead of speeding up on the career front, Neelam says she wants to slow down. The actress, who’s married to actor Samir Soni and has a daughter, Ahana, says she is keen to strike the right balance between work and family time.

‘I feel my daughter needs her mum to be around’
Ask her why she isn’t encashing on the popularity of the show, and she replies, “See, when I first did season one of Fabulous Lives Of Bollywood Wives, I thought, ‘Well, this isn’t that bad, and I don’t mind continuing with the acting gig.’ But now, when I am getting offers and reading scripts, I have realized a few things. My daughter is 11, and she’s growing up, and I feel I’ve spread myself too thin. I’m also focussing on interiors and jewellery designing, and I feel Ahana needs her mum to be around. Earlier, I was raring to go and do web shows and films. I was all for it, but now I’ve changed my mind.”

‘The Industry has changed; it has become too demanding’
The actress says she is keen on taking up work that doesn’t include long shifts. She shares, “I am happy to do projects that won’t consume too much of my time. I enjoyed working in Made In Heaven. Today, the industry has changed so much – it has become too demanding. Earlier, a shift would be from 9 am to 6 pm or 10 am to 2 pm. I’m not used to 12-hour shifts, which also require two hours of travelling, two hours of makeup time and then the 12-hour shoot. I was left wondering where my personal life went. That was a wake-up call. My daughter is my priority right now, so the guilt seeps when I’m hardly home.”

‘Sometimes I pinch myself to believe that this is really happening’
Neelam is glad to have received so much love from the industry and the audience, especially at this point in her life.

She says, “Sometimes I pinch myself to believe that this is really happening. In the ’80s and ’90s, I did over 40 films. I was very successful. Now, to witness all the limelight once again is unbelievable, especially when it is coming back to me at this age. For an actor who started out at 16 and is now 55, to be relevant is surreal. I did this show, and things changed completely for me. It’s all thanks to Karan Johar. When I go to events now and see people recognizing me, it takes me back to my earlier life all over again.”

‘I Left the industry because I didn’t like the offers coming my way’
Neelam, who was seen in films like Love 86 (1986), Aag Hi Aag (1987), Hatya (1988), Parampara (1993) and Hum Saath Saath Hain (1999), admits that she was sceptical to make a comeback.

She says, “Back then, I left the industry because I felt my shelf life was over, and I didn’t like the films I was being offered. It was Karan (Johar) who approached me for the show. In this age of social media, I thought I’d be trolled if I returned to acting. I was conscious. When I left films, I was almost 30. That was the last time people saw me on screen, and making a comeback in my 50s was a little daunting. But Karan and my husband, Samir, helped me calm down and pushed me to go for it, and here I am.”

Samir Soni is the kind of person who has no filter; sometimes I get scared-Neelam Kothari

Neelam Kothari, Husband Samir Soni Enjoy This Indian Feast On Maldives Vacation

Onkar Kulkarni (BOMBAY TIMES; October 10, 2024)

Her arguments on her web series with her husband Samir Soni has the audience realised that it’s quite an ‘opposite attracts’ jodi. While Neelam comes across as a social person, Samir is rather anti-social. And the actress tells us that it takes efforts to make him do things for the show.

Talking about how she convinces him every time he has to come on camera for their show Fabulous Lives Of Bollywood Wives, Neelam shares, “The first day we shot with him he walked in with his boxers and ganji. I objected and he said well, it's a reality show and this is how I am at home. I said at least wear pyjamas and a t-shirt. And he refused saying, ‘You guys want me on the show? You want to shoot with me? This is the way I am!’ Finally, somehow, I convinced him, and he at least wore track pants and a t-shirt. But then the next challenge was to make him sit up as she was lying down on the couch and wanted to talk like that on camera. He just wanted it to be real.”

At home, the other thing Neelam worries about Samir is that “he has no filter”! She elaborates saying, “Sometimes I get scared talking in front of him about anything thinking what if he spills the beans by mistake. If I'm gossiping with my friends, I make sure that he's not around because nothing stays in his stomach. He doesn't realize there's just no filter. Overall, he's just a clean soul so he doesn't realize it.”

The actress is now gearing up for the third season of her reality show – Fabulous Lives Vs Bollywood Wives. This time around there’s an addition to the cast with a bunch of new protagonists. And this change makes Neelam jealous!

In a fun way she reiterates saying, “My first reaction to the new season was, ‘Oh, we have to share screen space with other wives?; But anyway, as we started shooting it was a lot of fun. It definitely added to the track. We needed that little twist because the four (Neelam Kothari, Maheep Kapoor, Bhavna Pandey, Seema Khan) of us became very comfortable on the show so this has definitely helped.”

Shooting for a film involves 10 hours of waiting and only one hour of actual acting-Samir Soni

‘I’m itching to make  a comeback on TV’

Neha Maheshwri (BOMBAY TIMES; May 9, 2024)

Samir Soni believes he is in a sweet spot as an actor, as today he has the flexibility to work across all mediums without any baggage. His stint on television, including shows like A Mouthful of Sky, Jassi Jaissi Koi Nahin, and Parichay, have played a pivotal role in shaping his career.

Talking about working on TV shows vis-à-vis films, He shares, “For some reason, TV has been very kind to me. As an actor, I have received more respect, compelling characters, and due on television. So, that’s where I feel most comfortable. However, I can’t say the same about films because I am a workaholic, and what I dislike the most is sitting and waiting for my next shot. During film shoots, 70 per cent of the time is spent waiting for the shot to be ready. The daily process involves 10 hours of waiting and only one hour of actual acting; I am not a fan of that. Some people argue that you get time to delve into your character. Not really! Instead, you spend a lot of time ensuring you don’t lose the character because you are essentially doing nothing.”

It’s rather surprising that he has been absent from his preferred platform, the small screen, for the past nine years.

He says, “I am itching to make a comeback. However, I don’t see myself fitting into the current trend of shows. Many are mythologicals, and I have also been approached for such roles. I don’t feel I could convincingly portray them. While I have respect for those who do, I find it too limiting. I am happy being human and don’t aspire to be a God even if it’s for a feature film (smiles). Also, there seems to be a shift towards rural-based shows with the focus more on the character’s mannerisms than its journey. I don’t see myself fitting into those narratives either. My strength lies in portraying characters with an urban essence. I enjoy playing relatable characters, which unfortunately aren’t coming my way at the moment. I keep sending the feelers out saying that I am available. I believe we are going through a transitional phase, but I am confident it will settle down, and I will find something interesting to return with.”

During his hiatus from television, he has been exploring the OTT space. Reflecting on his career, he shares, “No one will ever say Samir is a bad actor or a bad looker. However, if you look back at my career trajectory, I have never landed an author-backed role. Despite this, I’ve managed to maintain a presence in the industry for over 25 years solely based on my performance. Even today, people recall my dialogue from China Gate, even though 90 per cent of my role was chopped off. So, I must have done something right. My work has stayed with people and that’s a saving grace.”

Along with OTT, he has been deeply immersed in preparing for the 400th show of his long-running play, Anything But Love, co-starring Mandira Bedi, which was staged recently. Theatre allows the actor within him to flourish while also keeping him mindful of his audience’s expectations.

“It’s been a 20-year journey. We never imagined it would last this long. In fact, it’s doing better now. The play revolves around two individuals who are divorced and explores their inability to be together or apart. It offers a relatable perspective on relationships, highlighting that in marriage or love, it’s often about anything but love.”

15 Years of Fashion: Mugdha Godse, Ashwin Mushran, Samir Soni share their memories

fashion, the film  that dug up the dark side, turns 15
Syeda Eba Fatima (HINDUSTAN TIMES; October 29, 2023)

Mugdha Godse
The actor-model opens up on how she bagged the role of Janet Sequeira: “Madhur Bhandarkar and his team used to visit fashion shows and spend lot of time backstage. In one of our fashion weeks in Delhi, the team sat down to chat and I had the maximum insights to share. The next day, I was called to play a part in the film and I accepted it.”

While it was “a bit scary” for Godse as the “film’s story was very close to reality”, it was special nevertheless. “It was my first film and being appreciated right after my first scene by Madhur and others felt special,” shares the actor, on her debut film.

fashion, the film  that dug up the dark side, turns 15
Ashwin Mushran
The actor played Rohit, an assistant to designer Vinay Khosla (played by Harsh Chhaya). “I saw that it (Rohit) was a great part and I wanted to work with Priyanka Chopra and Madhur Bhandarkar,” he tells us, adding that he was first offered Chhaya’s role.

Several supermodels were also part of the film and Mushran says working with them was a great learning experience as they were quite grounded. He says, “Everyone gives actors so much power that we think we are way more important than we really are!”

Samir Soni
The actor, who played designer Rahul Arora, a gay character, recalls a scene where he had to kiss a guy in a car: “Earlier, gay characters were portrayed in a very stereotypical way. But I wanted to do it right, so that the audience does not feel awkward or uncomfortable. I sat in the car with the actor, who was very young at that time, and I saw him shaking. I asked, ‘Kya hua?’ and his response was, ‘Bhaiyya darr lag raha hai’ (laughs). There I was, trying to get into character, and this guy called me bhaiyya!”

Soni adds that the scene was tweaked later. “I had to just give him a peck on the cheek, but he was still scared. Before the shot, I sat him down and comforted him like an elder brother, saying, ‘Listen, don’t be scared. I will do it’,” he tells us.

Neelam Kothari breaks the no-kissing rule: "Times have changed now"

NEELAM BREAKS
‘NO KISSING SCENE’
RULE: TIMES HAVE
CHANGED NOW
The actor, who had a kissing scene with husband Samir Soni in her recent OTT outing, shares why she agreed to do it
Navya Kharbanda (HINDUSTAN TIMES; September 4, 2023)

It was on the reality TV series Fabulous Lives Of Bollywood Wives when actor Neelam Kothari mentioned that no matter when she makes her acting comeback, one thing was for certain: she would not kiss on screen. Therefore, many were taken by surprise when the recent web show, Made In Heaven 2, had a lip-lock scene featuring Kothari and her husband, actor Samir Soni.

Revealing that it was director Zoya Akhtar’s idea, Kothari tells us, “Zoya said, ‘I know you don’t kiss and you are apprehensive about it, but there’s a kissing scene in the episode.’ My antennae instantly went up and I said, ‘Oh my God, no. That’s not going to happen.’ She told me, ‘Calm down, you will be kissing your own husband’. That convinced me a bit.”

In fact, Kothari feels this was a “clever and brilliant casting” call. “If it was anyone other than Samir, I don’t know if I would have been able to do justice to that scene. Coming back to acting after so many years and then kissing, too... I don’t think I would have been comfortable with any other actor,” admits the 53-year-old.

Another reason for her change of heart, the actor tells us, is that she realises the need to adapt to the changing times. A popular name in the ’90s with films such as Sauda (1995) and Hum Saath Saath Hain (1999), she says, “A lot has changed now [in terms of what is accepted on-screen]. When I was doing movies, kissing on screen was a big thing. Back in the ’80s and ’90s, for me to do it was out of the question... But now, times have changed. And since it was with my husband, I didn’t think there was anything wrong with it.”

After quitting acting two decades ago, she started her jewellery business. Now, having made her return to the screen with two web projects, she reflects on how the medium has proven to be a blessing for artistes who are returning after a sabbatical: “When I got comfortable with my space and was just doing business, OTT opened up a lot of avenues. After Fabulous Lives..., many opportunities have come my way. It is like a second innings for me.”

I often think I should have debuted now-Samir Soni

A still of Samir Soni

Sarvam Shakthi Mayam actor Samir says nuanced storytelling on OTT makes him wish he had debuted today instead of 25 years ago
Priyanka Sharma (MID-DAY; June 20, 2023)

Samir Soni says that it has always been quality over quantity for him as he pursued substantial roles, even at the risk of doing less work. It is only now that the actor is thoroughly relishing his time in front of the camera as the OTT boom has brought with it nuanced stories. Soni, who is currently seen in Sarvam Shakthi Mayam, says that he is enjoying long-format storytelling so much that he sometimes feels he debuted 25 years too early.

“The kind of work I always wanted to do is happening right now. So, I often think I should have debuted now,” he laughs, before adding that it only assures him that the road ahead will be creatively fulfilling. “I don’t have any regrets. I am being optimistic, and looking forward to more interesting roles.” 

The actor points to his latest ZEE5 drama, also starring Sanjay Suri and Priyamani, to make his case about the mature nature of shows today. To Soni, Sarvam Shakthi Mayam offered an interesting exploration into spirituality.

“I play a guy, who doesn’t believe in God, but is curious to understand spirituality. This [idea] resonated with me. Also, you see different viewpoints, when it comes to God and spirituality, through the story.”

Cameos over full fledged roles for Neelam Kothari

cameos over full fledged roles for neelam
Time commitment is the basis of Neelam Kothari Soni’s project choices
Syeda Eba Fatima (HINDUSTAN TIMES; September 17, 2022)

Neelam Kothari Soni is thoroughly enjoying her second innings as an actor after the success of Fabulous Lives Of Bollywood Wives and is flooded with opportunities. However, she says whenever approached for a project now, the first question she asks is, ‘How many days do you need to shoot my part?’

“My nine-year-old daughter Ahana takes up most of my time. I can’t sign a project that would require me to shoot 40-45 days and not be there for her,” shares the actor, who has done hits films like Love 86, Ilzaam (both 1986) and Khudgarz (1987).

With back-to-back shoots and promotional events, Neelam says family life ended up taking a back seat. “During this time, my daughter and my dad were unwell, and Sameer (Soni; actor-husband) was also busy with shooting. So none of us were available for Ahana. As a result, she’s giving me a cold shoulder (laughs). You know how children have strange ways of expressing emotions,” she elaborates.

That is why the actor is willing to take on cameo roles, which allow her to spend enough time with family: “Work will come and go, but these precious years with family will never return.”

Having said that, she believes “never say never”. “If something extremely interesting comes my way, I might make time,” shares Neelam, who recently wrapped up the shoot of filmmaker Zoya Akhtar’s Made In Heaven season 2, where she shares the screen with her husband.

Though she doesn’t share details about her part, Neelam says she didn’t have to think much before signing it. “I am friends with Zoya. She called me up one day and asked if I was willing to act, and I said, ‘If it’s for you then yes, 100%’,” she concludes.

Samir Soni’s latest book is based on the time when he had stopped socialising


Titas Chowdhury (HINDUSTAN TIMES; December 1, 2021)

Samir Soni recently marked his debut as an author with My Experiments With Silence: The Diary Of An Introvert. The actor, who has been maintaining a personal diary for years now, decided to put together pages and turn it into a book.

Talking about it, he says, “About 10 to 15 years back, there was a phase in my life when I decided to not socialise, talk or go out. Being an introvert, I wrote down whatever I felt. My thoughts were a part of my personal diary and not meant to be shared with anyone.”

So, what made him turn his journal into a book? “I was extremely apprehensive first. But I realised that it’s not just about me; it’s about a lot of people dealing with their own insecurities and fears. The book addresses a much larger issue of mental health. During the pandemic, you kept hearing about anxiety, depression and suicide all around you,” he says, adding that he too was faced with questions about his inner feelings.

With the positive feedback coming his way, Soni now wants to pen “an actual memoir”. He shares, “This book is more like a teaser to what’s going to come in the future. Writing is very therapeutic for me like it is for most people who are introverts. I would like to believe that I have a little flair for putting pen to paper. The next book will be about me looking back at life from the place I’m right now at.”

The Chehre actor reveals that his wife, actor Neelam Kothari, was fairly surprised after she read the book. “I was a little scared initially about how she would react. But when started reading, she was like, ‘Wow, this is rather deep stuff.’ I’ve no idea how the rest of my family will react to it because nobody knows about this part of me!” he ends.

I am going to stay 40 till I turn 60-Samir Soni


Kavita Awaasthi (HINDUSTAN TIMES; September 29, 2021)

“I am embarrassed on birthdays. I even switch off my phone,” says Samir Soni, who turns 53 today. The birthday boy says growing up “we didn’t celebrate too much”. “Now, I am older; if you are turning 18, one can be excited,” he adds. Soni always prefers having a quiet dinner with his family and he has only thrown three-four birthday parties in his life. “I am going to stay 40 till I turn 60,” he quips.

The actor had four film releases this year, including Mumbai Saga, The Big Bull, State Of Siege: Temple Attack and Chehre, and two web shows, Puncch Beat and Cartel. He is enjoying working constantly and is glad that people are seeing him in a different light. “I recently shot for Saurabh Shukla’s directorial and a Vikram Bhatt series with Sunny Leone. Cartel, too, got a great response and people loved my negative role. Earlier, people saw a nice-looking guy and cast me in older brother, young husband or rich tycoon roles. I got typecast. Now that I am older, I am getting mature roles. Now, the focus is not on my looks, but my acting. Negative roles are fun, as there are no boundaries,” he says.

Soni is also excited about his book that will be out next month. He admits unlike other celeb books, it won’t be a memoir. “It is an exploration of being an introvert and how to survive in an extrovert world. It also has part of my diary. I have questioned what is right and wrong. Why do we emphasise on being rich or famous? I’ve discussed conditioning and basic values, especially now that there are many mental health issues. Our society puts pressure on people to look and be a certain way. In fact, my condition to the publishers was to not have my face on the cover of the book,” says Soni, who featured in films like Baghban (2003) and Vivah (2006) in the past.

Little did I know that The Neelam Show I did in Kuch Kuch Hota Hai would be such a big hit-Neelam Kothari Soni

Neelam Kothari's Emotional Moment On Super Dancer, Courtesy Husband Samir Soni

Neha Maheshwri (BOMBAY TIMES; August 4, 2021)

In the 80s and 90s, Neelam Kothari Soni featured in several hit films, including Jawaani, Ilzaam and Khudgarz. The actress wowed the audience with her innocence, charm and pretty looks and enjoyed a huge fan following back in the day. Her on-screen chemistry with Govinda was much talked about, as were their dance moves. And then one day, just like that, she was done with Bollywood. In a chat with BT, Neelam gave us a sneak peek into how her life has transformed over the years and her plans for the future. Read on…

‘WHILE ACTING IN MOVIES, I MADE A CONSCIOUS EFFORT TO LEARN ABOUT MY FAMILY BUSINESS’
Today, a successful jewellery designer, Neelam has made a name for herself beyond showbiz. But the decision to quit movies and don the businesswoman’s suit, how did that happen? The actress replies, “Frankly speaking, I wasn’t too excited about taking up the kind of roles I was being offered. That’s when I thought that it was time to quit gracefully. While acting in movies, I simultaneously made a conscious effort to learn about my family business, jewellery. That was always my fallback option and something I always knew I would pursue eventually.”

Looking back at her last two big-screen outings, she says, “Kuch Kuch Hota Hai (KKHH) and Hum Saath Saath Hain (HSSH) happened after I had quit acting. Karan Johar, who is a dear friend, told me, ‘Look, you are playing yourself. It’s a cameo appearance. It will be fun’, and that was that. Little did I know that The Neelam Show I did in KKHH would be such a big hit. In fact, the younger generation knows me from KKHH. Filmmaker Sooraj Barjatya was extremely keen on having me on board for the part in HSSH.”

Neelam says, “I told him (Sooraj Barjatya) that I wasn’t doing movies anymore, but he was sweet enough to persuade me. So, I may have done 40 films, but I am recognized for my last two screen outings (smiles!). I was looking after my jewellery business, which I continue to do to date. I hadn’t expected Karan to approach me again with a web series. He has a knack for bringing me back (laughs!). It’s just been great since then.”

‘I WISH I WAS ACTING NOW’
Recalling how being an actress in the 90s was ‘just about being there’, Neelam says “When I had started, I was so young and was unfortunately stereotyped. The industry was also very different back then. Films would largely be about the hero. Today, actresses get to be the hero in their films! The kind of roles that are written and the films that are being made now are so diverse! Look at the content out there on the digital platforms, especially the homegrown ones. A large chunk of it is women-oriented. I think it’s a great time to be an actor. I wish I was acting now.”

A COMEBACK ON THE HORIZON?
The actress is particularly impressed with the kind of content being explored in the film industry today. She says, “There is great content being made, offering so much scope to an artiste to perform and explore now. I have already shot a portion of a project, which I am not at liberty to disclose yet. I was also offered another project, which I had to decline as they wanted me to shoot abroad for 45 days. I didn’t want to stay away from my family — my husband (Samir Soni) and daughter (Ahana) — for long in the middle of the pandemic. My priority and passion continue to be my family, and of course, jewellery designing. However, if something good comes my way, I will evaluate it and take it up if it piques my interest, but it’s not the be-all and end-all.”

Not having faced the camera for a long time did make her a tad nervous about going back to the shooting floors, but the encouragement she got from her recent work has given her the much-needed push. “I had apprehensions about facing the camera again because I hadn’t done it in a long time. But the feedback, love and admiration I received for the web series and an appearance on the reality show Super Dancer on social media was overwhelming. That gave me a lot of confidence and belief that there are people who still remember and love me. It’s been a real boost,” signs off the actress.

Neelam Kothari signs up for a detox wellness programme


After undergoing Botox treatment on Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives, Neelam signs up for detox programme
Mohar Basu (MID-DAY; June 16, 2021)

Those who tuned into Netflix’s 'Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives' might remember actor-jewellery designer Neelam Kothari Soni undergoing Botox treatment on one of the episodes. The actor had backed her decision saying that she didn’t want to hide that she did a facelift to maintain her looks. Now, she has signed up for a four-week detox wellness programme at a health resort near Pune.

“Sameer [Soni, husband] came up with the suggestion as the resort has a summer camp for children. We thought it would be a wholesome experience for us as well as for Ahana [daughter] who hasn’t been able to engage in outdoor activities due to the Coronavirus pandemic,” shares Kothari.

While she looks forward to the physical benefits of the programme, the actor hopes the “mental and digital detox” will help her combat the fear and anxiety brought on by the pandemic. “Our lives have changed a lot; we can’t go out, and are scared to meet people. Being in a green and open environment will [help calm] the mind. In the process, if I manage to lose a couple of pounds, why not? That’s a win-win situation.”

Sushant Singh Rajput's friends and industry colleagues weigh in on if anything has changed in the last one year


This day last year, actor Sushant Singh Rajput died a sudden, unfortunate death. Even as tributes continue to pour in, his death has spurred talks around mental health and the insider-outsider debate in Bollywood. His friends and industry colleagues weigh in on if anything has changed in the last one year
HINDUSTAN TIMES (June 14, 2021)


Rashami Desai, Actor
Sushant was a strong and hardworking person, and uski barabari kisise nahin ho sakti. Ever since Sushant’s death, a lot of people have come forward and admitted that they need help. They are talking openly about mental health, what it means and trying to create awareness about it. Moreover, since the last one year, there is a lot that has happened in the world and in the entertainment industry - from uncertain future, to lack of jobs, no money, health issues etc. People have started understanding why communication is important. Yet, we have a long way to go. People need to understand what mental health issue is. We have to learn that self-love is important too.



Apurva Asrani, writer
If you’re putting out a story against someone’s character, then it’s important that you verify your facts and have the courage to name the subject at least. Sushant was called a skirt chaser, an alcoholic, unprofessional and arrogant in blind items that described him but didn’t name him. He was even accused of molesting a co-actor in one blind piece, but there were no complaints, allegations or proof of any of this in the real world. Yet the damage was done, and he had to stay up several nights, desperately defending himself to the world. I hope this never happens to anyone again. I am also closely watching the new media narratives about Kartik Aaryan and noticing that things are being said about him without any verification from him.


Adhyayan Suman, Actor
It was a good thing that so much came out, there were so many inequalities in the industry. Sushant’s death brought out so many thing prevalent in the industry, but I am not sure if anything has changed. But my counter to this is, how much change has it brought? Have deserving people started getting work? Has it become easier for them? I don’t think directors have started taking calls of nobodies. I don’t want to name a filmmaker, he came to me during the pandemic last year, and said ‘I love you as an artist, there is no chance I am not going to give you work’. It’s been then and now, he is not answering my calls. It’s unfortunate. I am not sure anything has changed.


Gulshan Devaiah, Actor
People have unrealistic expectations about Bollywood. It’s a cut-throat business. There is a severe lack of professionalism at different levels and there’s an unsaid hierarchy. This is no meritocracy. Very few people understand the nature of this business and that’s where all the trouble lies. Sushant was a bright star and had a fantastic career. I wish I had his career. Conversations on camps and lobbies have increased. A lot of people felt empowered to share what they feel about this business, may be out of vengeance, motivation or to just shake things up. It’s undeniable that his unfortunate demise has given many people the courage to speak out. What we’ve also realised is that there are power structures and they are fighting to destroy and decimate each other.


Samir Soni, Actor
At the end of the day, we are talking about show business. It will be about profit maximization. Whoever is investing money wants to make more money. A lot of people say ‘merit counts’. That way, Naseeruddin Shah and Late Om Puri should have been the highest paid actors in the country. Market decides that. If I were to make a film and had enough money, I wouldn’t play the central character, I know people will crowd theatres to watch someone more saleable. Talks around such things have come up in the past year. Everyone’s heart goes out. To me personally, Sushant is a success story.


Dheeraj Dhoopar, Actor
Whatever happened last year was a very sad thing, and we all should understand one thing that actors are also human and have emotions, who have our professional targets and commitments. There are times when people just start judging actors or mocking them when we post something on social media, without thinking that there may be a reason behind it. The world should be less judgmental and more understanding. When it comes to the culture of blind items, I cannot say ke kitna change hua hai, but at least people have started talking about it and calling it out, which is a good thing.


Amol Parashar, Actor
There were conversations about the inner lives of young actors, the pressures they live with on a daily basis and the demons they fight away from the public eye. A lot of friends and well-wishers reached out to me as they must have for every young actor out there. In a few days though, the conversations became convoluted, and instead of sympathising with his colleagues and friends who were dealing with the loss, some sections of the media turned it into a headless witchhunt. Hope we can bring back some empathy into our conversations about young people’s internal struggles especially in an industry that keeps you on your toes all the time.
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Fans keep SSR’s legacy alive


Susanta Ray, wax sculptor from Asansol, West Bengal
Both my daughter and I were huge fans of Sushant Singh Rajput. I liked him because he is my namesake and also he was a great actor and we’re both artists. I felt some sort of connect with him because of that. When I heard the news of his death I was shocked, I just could not believe and I then decided that I have to honour him in some way. That is when I decided to make his full length wax statue. There is no wax statue of Sushant anywhere in the world. This is a very popular attraction at my museum and people from all over come, especially so many of his fans, to get a picture clicked with the statue. This is my tribute to Sushant and something that is going to always remain special for me.

Shivangi, administrator of a fan club
Emotionally, it has been the toughest time. But I thought of starting something in his name to honour him. He has always been a big-hearted person and as his fans, we need to carry that forward. So, I started this initiative wherein I have been making stuff and selling them. Earnings from the drive are being used to feed the needy. I have distributed food items among the homeless. Many fans of SSR have helped us in this initiative, they have contributed regularly. For now, we want to continue our efforts.
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Dr Harish Shetty, Psychiatrist

The entertainment industry has been open-minded about mental health for many years now. Younger professionals seek help when needed but sadly, there is a lot of stigma about it. In the last one year, since Sushant’s death, I feel the visual media has neutralised this advantage by irresponsible reporting. In the TRP war, mental health awareness suffered and caused a lot of pain to those who were already under treatment for depression. As a mental health professional, I think, the focus on mental health since Sushant’s death can be described as the darkest period of the mental health movement.

Hema Malini’s daughter inspired Samir Soni to name his baby girl ‘Ahana’


Onkar Kulkarni (BOMBAY TIMES; October 18, 2020)

When Juhi Chawla named her daughter Jhanvi, she called up late Sridevi to inform her that their daughters share similar names. Now, we have come across one more actor who, too, was inspired by the name of a starkid. The actor being Samir Soni, who named his daughter Ahana, after being inspired by Hema Malini’s daughter Ahana.

Sharing the story, Samir says, “I met Ahana before I worked with her mother in Baghban (2003). Actually, Dia Mirza, Ahana and I went for the same pottery classes. So, when I met Hema- ji’s daughter, it was the first ever time I heard the name ‘Ahana’. I really liked the sound of it.” He adds, “So, when my wife, Neelam, insisted that we name our daughter with the letter ‘A’, I suggested that we call her Ahana. I didn’t know what it meant, so I looked for it and figured that it meant the first ray of the sun.”

Samir also adds that Ahana has been a fan of his wife and former actress Neelam. “Ahana would sit on her lap when she was a kid,” he recalls.

Bollywood divided over Rhea Chakraborty's arrest


A step for justice or needless vilification? We ask celebs who have been vocal about the Sushant Singh Rajput case
HINDUSTAN TIMES (September 10, 2020)

Supporting The Arrest


Kamya Panjabi
I saw people celebrating on social media that ‘she’s been arrested for drug abuse, not murder’, but drug abuse is illegal, too! If they don’t arrest her, what message will they give to the youth? Also, Rhea kya doodh peeti bacchi hai ki drugs laane ke liye force kar diya? The said person is not here to defend himself, you can say just anything. Now you will say ki muh mein drugs daal diya tha.


Samir Soni
There isn’t any other way of looking at it. This case has become like a can of worms, which started off with how did Sushant die. The drug aspect can’t be ignored, the underworld dealings and stuff. We gave local authorities almost two months to figure out, we should give CBI, NCB and ED at least a few months. I am happy with the way the case is going. It won’t be comfortable for a lot of people perhaps, but it is what it is.


Shekhar Suman
As per NCB’s investigation, Rhea was procuring drugs and was in touch with peddlers, so the arrest is justified. But whether she is connected to a cartel is yet to be proven. The drug angle can be a parallel investigation... We should focus on the primary investigation of the reason behind Sushant’s death. The general sentiment was that Rhea should be arrested, but I feel the media trial was not correct. We should shut up now and let the agencies do their job.

Against The Arrest


Swara Bhasker
Rhea’s being targeted in a media trial fuelled by a social media lynch mob, led by people with their own agendas. She’s being made a scapegoat for voyeuristic pleasure. I’ve always maintained that the law of the land must be allowed to function in a rational and impartial manner. And as far as I know, Rhea is cooperating with all the investigations.


Sayani Gupta
It’s unbelievable what’s happening with Rhea and her family. There’s not an iota of empathy. We have a judiciary for a reason. If she’s proven guilty, punish her, but this isn’t the way. This witch hunt must stop. It seems people have already made up their mind that she’s guilty. Let law take its course.


Hansal Mehta
I stand in solidarity with Rhea. I am as pained as I’d be about my own child. It’s disturbing to see such harassment and misogyny that has failed us, as a society. All the top agencies of the country have been working on the case but still nothing has been proven. It’s also painful to hear someone casually saying that the entire industry does drugs.

I kept crying all day after I heard that my friend Samir Sharma was no more-Samir Soni


The actor talks about his close friend Samir Sharma, whose death by suicide has left him shattered
Tanvi Trivedi (BOMBAY TIMES; August 8, 2020)

Actor Samir Sharma’s death by suicide has left his friends in the industry devastated. Samir Soni, who was a very close friend of his, was in a state of shock when we contacted him on Thursday. Though yet to come to terms with the news, he spoke to BT, yesterday.

Soni said, “He was very creative and intelligent, and over the years, we have had some interesting conversations. He was passionate about music and wouldn’t sleep for days if he was composing something. He also wrote poetry, and he used to share his music and poems with me.”

They had first met on the sets of the TV show, Dil Kya Chahta Hai, more than a decade ago. Soni recalled, “Though we became friends almost instantly, we lost touch over the years. It’s only in 2019 that we reconnected again. Like I said, he was a crazy genius and he had his highs and lows. As a friend, I have always supported him, whenever he needed me. Samir was a great guy and a gentleman in the true sense.”

The two had met last week. Narrating an incident, Soni said, “In June, he had borrowed my car to go to Pune. Unfortunately, he met with an accident on the way, but did not inform me. A few days later, the police informed me that they had found my car by the side of the road. However, when I asked Samir about it, he denied meeting with an accident. I didn’t prod him further. Almost a month passed and I started feeling that all was not well with him. So, last week, I visited him at his Malad residence. That’s when he apologized for the accident, and I told him that it was okay. Since he was not feeling well that day, I left within a few minutes. And then, a few days later, I hear that he has hanged himself in his flat! I kept crying all day after I heard the news. I still can’t believe that he has gone from our lives. I just wish he had reached out to someone if he was going through personal issues.”

I feel Kangana Ranaut just hijacked the whole thing-Samir Soni


Rishabh Suri (HINDUSTAN TIMES; July 22, 2020)

“I was trolled by so many of Kangana Ranaut’s fans. I thought I had made my point, but there were so many saying all kinds of stuff, so I said there’s no point carrying on with it, I took it off. Not that I think I wrote anything wrong,” says actor Samir Soni when asked about what prompted him to delete his Instagram post he put up on Sunday.

Soni had hit out at Ranaut for her recent interview on actor Sushant Singh Rajput’s death. “... I’m against anyone (including Kangana) who are using his death to settle their own personal scores. Deplorable… Stop shooting your gun off a poor dead man’s shoulder...” he wrote.

Talking about what made him write this in the first place, the actor, 51, says, “My personal opinion, which differs from a lot of people, was that stories around Sushant’s mental health are extremely valid, given the number of suicides we have among youngsters. I thought that should have been discussed (in the TV interview). But Kangana just hijacked the whole thing, and people went on a witch hunt against certain names holding them responsible ignoring the main issue of mental health that should have been the focus.”

Soni felt that the reason behind the drastic step Rajput took was ‘worth examining’ as it could have helped a lot of people.

The deleted post, he says, did garner some support. He adds that the way Ranaut spoke, made him feel that she had “issues” with all the people she mentioned in her interview, and she was “using Rajput’s death to get even”.

He explains, “I’m not saying Sushant wasn’t under pressure. So, what a responsible person would have done is — attack these people, fair enough — but also explore other possibilities.”

Soni admits he got “really upset” when Ranaut levelled allegations against a host of people including Javed Akhtar, Mahesh Bhatt and Aditya Chopra. “It was just ‘me, myself and I’. It came down to Mahesh Bhatt throwing chappals, Javed Akhtar saying suicide… it has become a tamasha,” asserts the actor, who was part of a debate on the same news channel a day after Ranaut’s interview.

Soni, responding to writer Apurva Asrani’s tweet that he “lied on the news” about Rajput’s psychiatrist calling him bipolar, says that he didn’t make it up. “Just google it. Even if he wasn’t bipolar, it’s at least worth examining what he was being treated for. It’s not like I fabricated. I said if this is one of the stories that came out, isn’t it good journalism to at least enquire? Let’s assume those stories are wrong, he wasn’t bipolar, the doctor wasn’t treating him. Even then we know he was being treated for depression or some mental issues. We should just explore that,” he says.

I could relate to the darkness-Samir Soni


Kavita Awaasthi (HINDUSTAN TIMES; June 24, 2020)

Actor Sushant Singh Rajput’s sudden death affected people in showbiz in many ways. Some spoke about nepotism while others discussed mental health. Actor Samir Soni was disturbed, too, and made a shocking admission in an Instagram post. “It could have very easily been me,” he wrote.

Explaining his post, Soni, 51, says, “I understand the pressures of showbiz, which is why I wrote that. This business is unpredictable... It can get frustrating if after working non-stop, you have no work for months. One hit makes you famous, but give a few flops and people might forget you.”

The writer-director cites examples in the industry such as late actor Rajesh Khanna and actor Kumar Gaurav — both had major highs and lows in their careers. “In a low phase, sometimes one can’t see light beyond the darkness. You wait for that one phone call which can change your career. I have been there and so I could relate to the darkness. One has to be very strong mentally to survive in this business. It is not just about talent... It is a business at the end of it all,” he says, adding, “I’d tell young actors to act because you enjoy it, but be prepared for the long wait between projects. too. Even now, due to Coronavirus, a number of films will suffer and so will the careers of many actors, filmmakers and technicians.”

Soni debuted with Rajkumar Santoshi’s China Gate (1998) but his career didn’t pan out as expected. “When I was launched in a huge film, I was told I had a bright future, but once the film flopped, I didn’t get any work. My first marriage, too, fell apart... It happened so fast, I didn’t have time to react. I’d get panic attacks. For almost a year, I’d stay at home in bed... I was in counselling for two years,” he shares. Later, he thought Baghban (2003), which was a super hit, would translate into a lot of work, but it didn’t. “I didn’t get any film for three months, but this time I was stronger... I am glad I decided to transition into TV and saw success in Jassi Jaisi Koi Nahin. I did a number of films including Vivah (2006), Fashion (2008) and many TV shows such as Parichay, and web shows including Puncch Beat, too. I am happy with my career and life,” adds Soni.