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Kind of storytelling emerging from Hindi cinema today is far more authentic, experimental-Parvathy Thiruvothu
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Parvathy Thiruvothu talks about how today’s discerning audiences are the real gamechangers, driving the fading divide between Bollywood and regional cinema
Vishakha Pandit (HINDUSTAN TIMES; November 10, 2025)
Actor Parvathy Thiruvothu, who has been a part of Malayalam and Tamil cinema for over 17 years and marks eight years since her Bollywood debut Qarib Qarib Singlle today, feels that the lines between Hindi and regional cinema have blurred significantly since then. She shares, “Audiences no longer care about language; they just want an honest story. That’s a beautiful change because it pushes all of us to work harder and stay true to our craft.”
Parvathy adds, “Earlier, I used to think regional cinema, especially in the South, was more rooted, while Hindi films often followed certain set formulas. But that distinction doesn’t exist anymore. The kind of storytelling emerging from Hindi cinema today is far more authentic and experimental than it used to be. At the same time, southern industries have opened up to a global audience, especially after OTT. So, I feel both worlds are learning from each other now.”
The 37-year-old credits this change to the audience: “The audience has become the biggest game-changer. They’re far more aware, intelligent, and demanding. You can’t fool them with the same old ideas anymore.”
Reflecting on her journey since then, Parvathy admits she’s become far more selective about the projects she takes up. “Sometimes a script looks great, but if the energy with the team doesn’t feel right, I know it’s not for me. I’ve learned to listen to my instincts,” she explains.
That instinct, she says, has guided her choices across industries, including her Bollywood debut opposite the late actor Irrfan Khan. She recalls, “Working with Irrfan sir was one of the greatest blessings of my life. There was never any sense of hierarchy, only mutual respect and curiosity. He made every moment on set lighter, and that energy was contagious.”
Why Parvathy Thiruvothu didn’t do more Hindi films after Qarib Qarib Singlle
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Titas Chowdhury (HINDUSTAN TIMES; October 31, 2021)
Actor Parvathy Thiruvothu marked her foray into Bollywood opposite late actor Irrfan in Qarib Qarib Singlle (2017). However, she hasn’t been seen in more Hindi films after that. While she’s keen on having a career here, she tells us that she’s waiting for the right part.
“I’ve been offered extremely few projects and I believe they were either very similar to the journeys of the characters that I’ve played in other languages or to the character I played in Qarib Qarib Singlle. I’m still waiting for that one project, which would give me a different experience as well as the audience,” she shares.
The Bangalore Days (2014) and Uyare (2019) actor, who has received critical acclaim for her performances, is known to be vocal about issues surrounding gender inequality and sexual harassment at the workplace. While many may assume that playing “a woman with a strong mind and invincible nature” maybe her priority, Thiruvothu differs.
She shares, “I want to be able to play individuals who have never found courage, strength or love, including sadists who intend harm, or those who want to do well for others. I constantly feel a need to explore a person’s psyche. Thereby, exercise empathy, and learn better.”
A while back, Thiruvothu was seen in Navarasa, a project where she worked on a pro-bono basis. Hoping that it sets a precedent amid these trying times, she shares, “Actors and technicians who are in a spot where they are financially secured should put their privilege to good use. It helps crew members who are forced to take up work outside of the film industry to support and sustain themselves. I’m grateful that I’m in that position (to offer help). This should be done often.”
Growing up around him was an adventure, you never knew what was coming, says Babil on Irrfan Khan's 1st death anniversary
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In the concluding story of #OneYearOfMissingIrrfan, a year after he passed away, the late actor’s son Babil reminisces, ‘I miss my bestest friend and I dream of him often’, even as he says that, in hindsight, Irrfan’s equation with him was a model of genius parenting
Anshul Chaturvedi (BOMBAY TIMES; April 29, 2021)
You have written about being ‘best friends’ with Irrfan. What do you remember about that friendship now, as you look back?
This was the biggest loss for me. And it is difficult to explain. It is easy to say for someone ‘I am putting myself in your shoes and understanding’. You can’t. You can’t experience something that someone has experienced. The biggest loss I have – see, I really don’t have friends. I have a very, very close circle. And he was my bestest friend. I don’t know how to explain the relationship… (pauses) If you ever saw us together, you wouldn’t be able to make out if I was his son – we had a ball, man! We fought also like children – (pauses) We were the bestest friends – and that has been the biggest loss for me. People are like, ‘it has been this long, now just get over it’… bro, for 15, 25, 35 years, till the end of my life, I will never be able to get over this. Because it is not possible for me to ever find a friend like him! It has been one year, almost every night, I have dreamt about him. And that is my only area of reaching him – and so I don’t really like waking up, I don’t like the dream coming to an end. And that becomes a problem since I have a schedule, you know (laughs)! I hate waking up. I never had that problem. But now it is like I don’t want to let go of that dream. He was my closest, my bestest – he was my soulmate. When he left, half of my soul left, you know. I can see that there is this huge chunk of me that’s missing, that I guess some day I will be able to rebuild, but… You know, it is difficult for anyone to face a thing like this, to lose someone, to be hit by that pain. And you want to run away from that pain. But another thing he taught me was that pain is not something to run away from because pain is one of the most beautiful aspects of life. Happiness is great, joy is great – but pain is where the true introspection happens. When you are happy, you are not really introspecting, you’re going with the flow, you’re vibing and everything…
Pain is when you truly introspect. Now saying that doesn’t mean you put yourself through pain purposefully. But when it comes, I would suggest to everyone out there not to run away from pain but to feel it – not react to it, just to feel it, to see where it takes you. This is another lesson he instilled in me – to not run away from pain (laughs).
This is a long answer! (laughs, then pauses) I was a very, very lonely child when I was small. No one wanted to be friends with me. And I was a hopeless romantic. If I liked any girl, I would, you know, hopelessly fall in love with her – and this I’m talking like since I was eight! And I would get bullied a lot, intensely. I faced a lot of trouble in my childhood.
And then, when I was 16, I adopted this new personality, of being Irrfan Khan’s son. Not being Babil, but being Irrfan Khan’s son. And I soon realised that this guy, this personality that I have created, he is getting everything that I have ever wanted. Free entry to clubs, girls wanting to meet me, endless friends – not real friends, but I didn’t realise it at that time – all those things that Babil never could get.
And when he passed away, that bubble popped, you know. And the realisation of letting go of that identity you have created, worked so much on it, like you sandpaper the edges of a sculpture – to let go of that personality, to come back to who you are… I have learnt a lot of other things through the pain, but this is the most substantial one. To let go of that identity, to find myself – and I am still doing it – but at least I can say I have let go of a certain identity that was not me.
A lot of people create an identity to enter social structures that deny them entry otherwise and to let go of that identity and just be bravely who you are, doesn’t matter, that is my learning.
Irrfan was a very curious individual, exploring himself, his surroundings, incessantly. Did he push you towards the same reflex?
Yeah, yeah. And you know how he transferred that into me? By making me watch Tarkovsky! At a very very young age. Tarkovsky is something you watch at 40 years, you know, and you are still like ki arey mujhe kuch samajh mein nahi aa raha! He made me watch it when I was 12. I was like what are you making me watch? And he was like nahi please, please just sit down and watch this with me. And I realised that one of the things Tarkovsky talks about is that you have to remain a child. By remaining a child, by remaining vulnerable, you keep your curiosity alive. Once your curiosity diminishes, you are like a dead tree – the potential for your growth is over. The biggest challenge for anyone out there is to keep your curiosity alive, to make sure you remain a child.
Growing up around him was an adventure. You never knew what was coming. There was always a new layer of him. He would keep trying new things.
Irrfan the actor, Irrfan the father, Irrfan the friend – do all these intermingle in the way you remember things, now that you are also stepping into acting as a profession?
Yes, yes. I was gravely upset that he couldn’t see me act even earlier. But that was because of how hard he worked, not because he wasn’t a great father. See, I’ll be very honest with you. People think he was always very talented as an actor. He really wasn’t. When he started off, he wasn’t even a good actor. I watched recordings of his plays in National School of Drama (NSD), (private ones, that no one else has). People think he was always talented. Not true. He had serious commitment to his craft, sincere commitment to his craft, and that’s what made him and that’s what made him so good and great later on.
And that commitment meant that he was working very hard, he was at shoots all the time. He was always in that zone. When he came out of that zone, we’d have a blast, of course. I was very upset when I did my 8th grade play and he didn’t show up for that, because, obviously, he was working, he had prior commitments. But I was really upset about that. I think I’m just reminiscing about that because now I’m finally acting and he’s not there to watch it. “If he was there, he’d have given me these kind of tips”… So today when I talk about him as an actor, or his tips, (like he does on Instagram sometimes) it’s part reminiscing, part sharing, part even I don’t know what it is… I regret he could never watch me act.
Not even in any other school play after that 8th grade one?
No, he never had the time na, he was very busy! Look at his body of work! He was always working. But he was a very dedicated father. If I had a problem, if I was going through something, he would step aside from whatever he was doing. But it had to be something that mattered. It was not like an event or a festival or a birthday, not things like that. He would not show up for my birthday or something, I would get upset at that time – but later I realised that he was a really, really dedicated dad. When I was actually going through something – not something that society has constructed but something that I was personally facing – he would drop everything. Even if it was Ang Lee or George Clooney, doesn’t matter who he was having a meeting with, he would push it aside if he saw a message from me like ‘Baba mujhe samajh nahi aa raha main kya karoon’. Then he will push everything aside and he will call me and talk, even if it takes one hour.
So he never saw you act?
(Pauses – and then he remembers something) He saw me act once, though (laughs)! I was assisting the camera team in Qarib Qarib Singlle. There was this shot where me and my then-girlfriend, we had this one second shot as extras. And he was so excited to see me in front of the camera, he just took over (laughs)! He wouldn’t even let Tanuja ma’am say ‘action’ also! He took over everything, he came to say ‘action’, I saw this joy on his face, I can’t explain it to you… I would have loved for him to watch me.
You grew up in a mixed faith family. And Irrfan was a very curious, philosophical mind. What did you pick up from him?
When I was really, really young, he would make me read the Quran. And I would get so irritated – I don’t want to do all this. It’s not like I had any view on religion, it was more like this is boring and I want to go play cricket! He was, like, no, no, you have to read this, because after this you have to read the Bhagvad Gita, and after that you have to read the Bible. And I am like – what are you trying to do?! Now I understand. He never made me a religious person but he made sure I understood religion. Like, I understood what it is, and why it is important. That it can enable a certain kind of spirituality into you, but it also can introduce you to its dark side. I didn’t understand all of it at that young age, but now I introspect upon it. I think I was saved by that. I am a very spiritual guy. And I think if I was not guided properly by him, that spirituality would probably have been misguided into some fake love for religion and I would have been doomed. Because there are times where your quest for redemption turns into a very toxic and blind faith in religion which will destroy you. He made me understand that the concept of all religions is the same thing. What matter is your connection with the Creator, whoever you think He may be. It is a personal connection you and Him have and no one has the right to interfere in that. It was very important for me to know all that. Else I could have been something quite different, and I’m glad I am not.
How did you handle the last phase – when Irrfan was hospitalised and then passed away?
For the first few days, Mom (Sutapa Sikdar) was like how is that he is taking it so well? I was running around, doing everything, making sure everything was fine at home and at the hospital. It was really bad, though. I can’t explain the amount of pain he was going through when he was conscious. I particularly remember when they were going to put a catheter, and asked me to leave the room, and he almost yelled, ‘Babil, tum kahin mat jao mujhe chhod ke!’ They pulled me out of the room and he screamed my name. I never felt that much pain and helplessness. I just stood there outside, hearing him scream my name. I dealt with it well in that moment, but after he passed – initially, Mumma was surprised how well I was taking it – but two days after he passed away, I crashed. I just crashed. Everything shut off. I went into deep, deep depression. I can’t even explain. There was no will to wake up. I was very suicidal… (we pause for a bit) I was done. I didn’t have any will to live. I still struggle with it a lot. And at that time, Mumma was the strength. She has always been the strength of our family. Throughout Baba’s career. You know everyone’s like Baba was this, Baba was that – but Baba wouldn’t have been anything without Mumma, she’s been the strength of the family.
There’s something I’d like to remind you of, a quote from the note Irrfan wrote while being treated in London – “In this chaos, shocked, afraid and in panic, while on one of the terrifying hospital visits, I blabber to my son, “The only thing I expect from ME is not to face this crisis in this present state. I desperately need my feet. Fear and panic should not overrule me and make me miserable.”
Was he always this open with you about what he felt?
He was very open about his vulnerability with me. After I was 14, 15, he has shown me great vulnerability. He would cry in front of me. He would tell me he’s scared. And you know what happens, through that, I was never ashamed of feeling vulnerable, of being scared, of crying. And so for me that is what a man is. This whole concept of mard ko dard nahi hota is such bull****. He showed me. He showed by telling me how he is scared and why he is scared – just talking to me about all these things. He never tried to be a ‘tough man’ before me. He was vulnerable. And he showed me that I could be vulnerable before him, I could cry, that it was fine. And that’s parenting, man! I think that’s genius parenting!
Lakshman Jhula shuts down, will Bollywood move on to Ram Jhula?
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Built in 1923, the bridge has appeared in films like Ganga Ki Saugand, Sonu Ke Titu Ki Sweety, Bunty Aur Babli and more
Niharika Lal (BOMBAY TIMES; July 15, 2019)
On Friday, the Uttarakhand government shut the 96-year-old suspension bridge Lakshman Jhula in Rishikesh for the public after a Public Works Department (PWD) report stated that the bridge was in a bad condition and could not “sustain more traffic in its present state”. The development will not only have an impact on the locals and tourists but also many film producers as the iconic bridge is one of Bollywood’s favourite shooting locations.Om Prakash, Additional Chief Secretary (ACS), PWD, Uttarakhand, said that orders were issued to have the bridge shut on the PWD-appointed consultant’s recommendation. “It is not certain when the bridge will be opened,” he said.
The bustling 450 ft iron suspension bridge has long been one of the most popular shooting locations in Rishikesh, where everything from movies to television shows to ad campaigns have been shot. It has featured in a number of films, including Amitabh Bachchan’s 1978 film Ganga Ki Saugand, Ayushmann Khurrana’s Dum Laga Ke Haisha and last year’s Batti Gul Meter Chalu.
SALMAN KHAN’S NEXT MAY BE THE FIRST FILM TO GET AFFECTED
Shooting for Sanjay Leela Bhansali’s Inshallah, starring Salman Khan and Alia Bhatt, is scheduled for next month in Rishikesh, Haridwar and Uttarkashi. A Rishikesh-based line producer says, “In April, Sanjay did a recce in Haridwar and Rishikesh. We don’t have the list of locations yet, but one of the major locations was Lakshman Jhula. It won’t be possible for his crew and him to shoot there now.”
‘ONCE THE AUDIENCE SEES THE BRIDGE, THEY KNOW IT IS RISHIKESH’
Line producers say that Lakshman Jhula in Rishikesh is as iconic as the Eiffel Tower in Paris, the Taj Mahal in Agra and the India Gate in Delhi. “Even for those scenes that are not shot on the Lakshman Jhula, directors instruct us to pick spots from where the bridge can be seen in the background, like it was seen in Qarib Qarib Singlle. Similarly, if a shot is placed in a restaurant nearby, they prefer frames in which the Lakshman Jhula is visible. Once the audience sees the bridge, they know the place,” says Nitin Pundir, a Rishikesh-based line producer. He adds, “Every year during the kanwar yatra, the bridge is shut because of traffic. Initially we thought that this time also it was because of the yatra but it seems the bridge is shut permanently.”

RULES WERE FLOUTED OPENLY, SAY PRODUCERS
While the spot has been popular for film shooting since the 1960s and 70s, permissions from multiple local authorities were required. And even back then, most of the time, rules were openly flouted. Javed, a Delhi-based line producer who was a part of the crew filming Dum Laga Ke Haisha at Lakshman Jhula, says, “Whenever we asked for permission to shoot at Lakshman Jhula, we were told to not allow more than 50 people together on it. But there was no way we could shoot with just 50 people. To shoot any sequence in a film, we need way more people including the actors, the key crew, the supporting cast and vehicles.”
A Delhi-based line producer adds, “While filming Dum Laga Ke Haisha, we had to put 20-30 dancers on the suspension bridge, which was against the set rules. But, we took the liberty to do that while shooting. Actually, in most cases, a situation like this is unavoidable. The situation is pretty similar with almost all the song sequences that are shot on the bridge.”
Another prominent line producer chips in, saying, “Riding a bike is not allowed on the bridge but the rule was flouted blatantly for multiple ad campaigns.”
TIME FOR THE SPOTLIGHT TO SHIFT TO THE RAM JHULA?
“Production houses can still shoot in Rishikesh, but it will be at Lakshman Jhula’s twin bridge Ram Jhula. It’s located only a few kilometres away. It’s not that popular right now, but we don’t have an option anymore,” line producer Pundir points out.
A Dehradun-based line producer states, “It’s a huge loss for several line producers because Lakshman Jhula is an iconic location. A lot of shooting-related queries from Indian as well as international production houses trickled in only for that location and of course, the Ganga ghat. However, it is better to take precautions than to regret later. Now that Lakshman Jhula is closed for good, it’s high time that we found our options. The state is blessed with a lot of natural beauty and there are plenty of untapped locations which will probably find their space in the spotlight now.”



Nandita Das, Ashwiny Iyer Tiwari and Tanuja Chandra explain what it's like to be a female filmmaker in India
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Rachana Dubey (BOMBAY TIMES; October 20, 2018)
Cinema has the power to chronicle every little change in society. In contemporary times, women filmmakers are challenging the stereotypes of a male-dominated film industry and in the process, they’re making their presence felt, too. The change isn’t just evident with female directors narrating stories, other fields of filmmaking have also seen women make a mark. In a no-holds-barred discussion, directors Nandita Das, Ashwiny Iyer Tiwari and Tanuja Chandra talk about women filmmakers taking the charge in cinema. They debate on the commercial prospects of stories driven by female characters, general perceptions around women being in charge on a film-set and the fact that even female-centric films can at times, be misogynistic in nature. Excerpts…
Fatma Begum in 1926 is cited as one of the earliest examples of a female filmmaker in the Indian film industry. In fact, actress Shobhna Samarth launched her daughters, Tanuja and Nutan, in films as a filmmaker, too. And yet, even today, there is still a niggling need to underline the fact that you are a woman helming a film. What are your thoughts?
Ashwiny: Can I ask you a question: are you a female mother? Since you don’t differentiate between parents, why do it with professionals? As filmmakers, we have come a long way but we’re still outnumbered by our male colleagues. The silver lining is that the number of women directors in India is way more than it is in the West. It was underlined at this year’s Oscar Awards ceremony that not one woman director was nominated for an award there. In the same year, Filmfare Awards lauded two women directors for their films (Konkona Sen Sharma for A Death In The Gunj and Ashwiny for Bareilly Ki Barfi). I remember Nandita also got an award for her debut feature Firaaq. We didn’t win these awards because we’re women. We won them for our work. This encourages younger girls to consider filmmaking as a viable profession. Corporatisation has only made it more streamlined. Sheryl Sandberg (technology honcho, activist and author) had once walked out of an office because it didn’t have a woman’s rest room, which means the company had never considered women to be worthy of jobs. Small acts like hers can make a huge difference.
Tanuja: I don’t completely disagree with that classification because until there are half men and half women in every profession, it will have to be underlined, emphasised and stressed upon. Until then, it’s important to state that you are a woman working in an institution run by men. I am proud of the fact that I am a woman director. When I started out, there were probably only as many as you’d count on your fingers. Today, there are many more women, but in comparison to the male heads, the number is miniscule. It just makes me happy that our numbers in every profession are on the rise.
Nandita: While directing a film, we’re not conscious of our gender. For instance, I have multiple identities — Indian, half-Oriya-half-Gujarati, Delhi-bred. Many different aspects of my life influence the way I look at films and characters. Gender also plays an important role. When you see some films, you immediately think that they are possibly made by a man; the male gaze is that apparent. Similarly, there is a female gaze. I quite agree with Tanuja, that till there is no level playing field, we cannot shy away from the fact that we need more women to step out there. And therefore, if we are counting heads, we need to count them just to know how much ground needs to be covered.
A level-playing field is a utopian idea but do you think we can even get close to it?
T: Women make for half the world’s population, and yet, most of them remain unutilised or under-utilised. What business sense does that make? I am amazed by the limited thinking and vision of men who can’t see this as a potential area to tap into. Women are smart, meticulous and hard-working. How will we strive to make it a level-playing field? By simply being dedicated to our professions. I love being a filmmaker; I am always going to be on the crease. As a woman, I seek more women to work with because I like working with them. I just had four girls in the crew of my first film Dushman (1998). On Qarib Qarib Singlle, I had 15 in a crew of 120. Now, why should there not be more women on a film set?
A Bombay Times feature revolving around female cinematographers threw light on their professional hazards. Cinematographer Sunita Radia told us about a review that praised her work, but addressed her as Sunit Radia, assuming that the cinematographer was a man. That’s an example of how deep-rooted and gender-specific the perception is for certain film-related professions. Now, won’t changing this be a long battle?
T: I remember, Reese Witherspoon had said that the glass ceiling wasn’t created by women. While I don’t mind taking on the responsibility to break it, why is it my responsibility solely to do so?
N: It’s not a man versus woman thing. It’s a larger issue that deals with conditioning and that will take some time to change. Women are conditioned to take the shorter end of the stick. We also have to work on our confidence and tell ourselves that it’s okay to dream, seek pleasure, and take home our due. We are always hesitant and guilty about what we do or don’t do. As mothers, we are always on the home-or-work crossroad. Once you become a mother, just about everyone wants to know where you are planning to leave your child when you are at work. Even women make you feel guilty, as much as men do. So, I don’t want to use the word fight, but we have to work at it. It takes one generation to change things. When Ashwiny’s kids grow up, it will be normal for her daughter to have late hours and her son will not judge the women in his life for making their choices.
A: We’re always being scrutinised — right from our homes. We’re conditioned to overthink. Sometimes, it helps to think like a man. They don’t feel guilty if they are late. It doesn’t make me a bad mother if I have had late hours. This yin and yang phenomena has come in only now. For generations, women have successfully handled careers and homes. My biggest inspiration is my house-help. We’re still privileged but they’re not and they still do a lot.
N: I find it amusing to be called a great multi-tasker. That is not an award that I really want. I want to be able to shut off everything and focus the way a man does, which will happen when they share home responsibilities. In a lot of our feminist movements, most of the work has focussed on women who are questioning, shouting slogans and doing the drills, but not enough has been done with men. They have to be taught to not feel threatened by a woman’s presence, feel okay about crying and not feel henpecked if they listen to their women.
Male actors who work with a woman director are often asked ‘Female director ke saath kaam karke kaisa laga’. Even Ashwiny’s husband, director Nitesh Tiwari was asked how it was taking directions from her since she was directing Bareilly Ki Barfi, penned by him.Does the sexist undertone of such questions annoy you?
A: Why just that? I have often been asked that if you stay out, bacchon ko home-work kaun karata hai. When Nitesh says that he gets it done, it shuts people up. Maybe, they don’t expect that answer. It annoys me that they’re not as interested in the film as they are in how I manage home and work.
T: That’s cool. Let them ask. This question used to piss me off initially and I would wonder why no one ever asks an actor how it was to work with a male director. I’ve realised that the reason it’s not asked is that everyone knows how it is to work with them.
N: Manto was Nawazuddin Siddiqui’s second film with me. Whenever he was asked, he said, ‘For me, it’s my director’s word. It doesn’t matter if it’s a he or a she.’ On the set, he said, 'Aap jo bolte ho main kar deta hoon. Kuch aur filmein hoti hain jahan dimaag lagana padta hai kyunki pata nahi kya karva rahe hain aur kyun.’ There is a sense of submission here and also a rapport. With women directors, actors tend to have a different bonding. Age, and sometimes, the fact that I have been before the camera, comes in handy. I’ve worked with men and women directors. With women, there’s warmth, eye for detail and even things like menstruation are discussed freely.
A: Besides, we don’t have bro-gangs; we involve everyone when we’re at work. Our reactions are instinctive and our intelligence is driven by emotions.
It’s felt that women have always had it tougher than their male counterparts to get their first films off the ground. Is that a myth or a reality?
A: I don’t think I got the help from Aanand L Rai’s company for Nil Battey Sannata, because I am a woman. I got the help because he loved the story I was attempting to say.
N: I think it is still difficult. Just the fact that you take up positions, presumably belonging to a man, can make it a tad uneasy. Until recently, women couldn’t become make-up artists. How archaic is that? We are so educated today that no one says, ‘Oh, you are a woman, and so…’ It would have been easier to tackle a direct attack like that which comes from a sexist, misogynistic character. Since the attacks are indirect, we have learnt to subtly deal with them.
Could you please elaborate?
N: You can’t pin-point it, but you can feel it. At times, you sense that you wouldn’t be spoken to in a certain manner if you were a man. I felt this more while making Firaaq. If I raised a concern more than a few times, I was told to ‘Stop whining and complaining’. As directors helming projects, hierarchically, we’re at the top end of the ladder. We’re more collaborative as creatures; we seek opinions, we are okay with being vulnerable and a little low on confidence at times. Men can easily be assertive, but if we do that, it’s labelled as throwing our weight around. We’re constantly reminded that we’re women, which is not easy to negotiate.
A: Although I have never faced something like this in my corporate jobs, I was advised against hiring girl assistants for Nil Battey Sannata. I was told they may not be able to handle the crowd on the set, but they did their job well. So, it should be about capabilities not the gender. I have to walk into the room as an equal. If I am dumb, it will come across, but don’t label me one because I am a woman. Often, line producers call me ‘sir’ because they’re so used to taking orders from male directors.
N: The line-producers in smaller cities look at my male colleagues while talking to me. This doesn’t happen in urban setups like Mumbai. People here are more used to women being in commanding positions; the story is different outside our metros. These are problems we have to tackle while making our first few films.
T: The difference in approach is a cultural thing. Humour comes in handy while dealing with such situations. But to add a dimension here, I think more resistance comes for female stories. God forbid, if it doesn’t work at the box office, everything is pushed on the backburner. Now, we’re getting into a space where we don’t have to cast an A-list hero for a female story. At the time when I started out, we had to have a role for an A-list hero, even for a story led by a female character. By doing that, you go wrong at the script level itself, but you have to do it for the sake of the film. Today, for a film with an A-list actress in the lead, you won’t be forced to have a male A-lister.
But most A-list actors wouldn’t be keen to work in a film that has a lesser part for him to play...
N: You have to get an actor who is not A-list. I have been asked several times as to why I have made a film about a man when I talk so much about women. Why a film on Saadat Hasan Manto and not Ismat Chugtai? The reason is I was more impacted by him than her! A film having a female gaze is different from a film that has a central character who is a woman. People easily confuse these two and assume there may not be much for an A-list hero to do. How you deal with the characters in a film is what it all boils down to. Even if they make a female-centric film in mainstream Hindi cinema, it doesn’t always have a feminist angle. It’s actually more misogynistic.
A: The problem lies with us. We dissect our work more than the audience. Yeh female-driven film hai, yeh masala film hai. The audience sees a movie as a movie. As a fraternity, we compartmentalise things. For years, people didn’t realise that Gabriel Garcia Marquez’s Love In The Time Of Cholera, a quintessential love story with a female gaze, was the work of a man. Similarly, the gaze of a film has nothing to do with the gender of the director or the characters of the story.
What apart from casting impacts a female-centric film?
T: The distinguishing factor is the budget, which is still decided on the basis of the hero. Budget is calculated on the assumption that a male star’s film will bring more money on the table. A large part of the audience even today goes for a hero-centric film because this is a world wanting to see a male story. A Hindi movie with the biggest female star will be way lower in budget than a film with a male star.
N: We have built heroes in a way that we haven’t built heroines. We have usually seen them as the love interests of heroes. There are exceptions but this practice has existed for ages now. If you argue too much, you will be subtly told to shut up. These boundaries of perception will break with time, when more women start making more movies.
Also, despite the variety in the repertoire of female filmmakers, the perception is that they can only make serious films.
T: It’s conscious labelling that people do which is also very limiting. Right in this room, you have three women and we have all made distinctly different films. Farah Khan, Zoya Akhtar and Reema Kagti occupy different ends of the spectrum…
N: Someone who watched Manto told me that had a man directed it, the film would have been very different. The stories that I have depicted in the film are very sexual in the way they describe things. I am sure even if Manto had wanted to shoot them, he wouldn’t do it in a manner that the stories focussed mainly on sex; he, too, would have shifted their focus. There is not one way to make a film and that applies to both genders. Yes, I am comfortable with the stereotype that I can only make serious films. No point trying to battle that. People say that I can be very funny, but when I ask them if they’d cast me in a comedy, they look away. Now, isn’t the line of thought very clear?
A: If we are aggressive, we are seen as witches with claws. Men have two sides to their personalities, so do we, but we are told that we’re being aggressive. If a man does it, then they say that he knows what he wants. If we know our mind, it is a problem.
In over 100 years of cinema, women are still fighting to find their voices in the film industry, irrespective of their backgrounds and skill sets. What do you think you can do to make it easier for the next generation of women to rise and shine?
T: When I hear a young girl is aspiring to make movies, I advise her to do it. Men and women both don’t have it easy, so why give up? Also, I’ll work towards increasing the number of women in my crew. The change we want won’t occur magically.
N: I’ve virtually been a fringe-dweller in this industry. From where I see it, younger girls are taking less bullshit, while we as the older generation still look for ways to negotiate our space. Frances McDormand, at the Oscar ceremony, insisted on a clause for inclusion — a rider that will make it necessary for teams to include women across departments. Tanuja’s thought was spot on, that people will have to actively seek female talent in every space. If an A-lister creates the inclusion rider, what is seen as dispensable today, will become a necessity tomorrow.
A: A man in power should learn to congratulate and appreciate his female colleagues for what they achieve. Sadly, it doesn’t happen too often, but it must.



Ruling the Bollywood name game with Numerology
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Did you notice the extra 'L' in Qarib Qarib Singlle? Even if you missed it, you couldn't have missed the extra 'R' in 'Irrfan', the movie's lead actor. Both are spellings suggested by celebrity astro-numerologist Sanjay B Jumaani. Jumaani is in a feel-good phase currently, what with 2017 beginning with his clients, the Ambani-led Mumbai Indians, picking up their third IPL, the good run of Judwaa 2, and Newton being selected as India's entry for the Oscars apart from its Box Office success all projects that have been influenced by Numerology.
Jumaani, who has done this math for many Bollywood films, is as upbeat about Qarib... as he was about Hindi Medium. He explains, “According to Numerology, the English word 'Medium' in the film added up to 24, or 6 Venus that stands for entertainment. 'Hindi' was spelt in Hindi. The same formula was used in Toilet - Ek Prem Katha; 'Toilet' added up to 24, and is a lucky number for Akshay Kumar. Judwaa 2 is also spelt as per numerology and has done very well for Varun Dhawan, whose name also adds up to 42 (6). Jumaani's client list includes Limca record holder Taarak Mehta Ka Ooltah Chashma; Prenaa Arora, the producer of Rustom and Toilet - Ek Prem Katha; Rajkummar Rao, the star of Newton, which came after his other hit, Bareilly Ki Barfi, which also starred Ayushmann Khurrana (notice the spellings again). Both Prernaa and Rajkummar have added letters to their names on Jumaani's suggestion.
From Hrithik's debut blockbuster Kaho Naa Pyaar Hai, which had two extra 'A's, to the extra 'G' in 'Dabangg', to the extra letters in Singh Is Kinng and Singh Is Bliing, Numerology has helped Bollywood score at the Box Office. Jumaani, who chucked his 17-year-old struggling sales job within months of adding a couple of letters to his name, was recently awarded the Icon Of The Year 2017 by well known cricketer and former Indian wicket keeper, Kiran More, and Mr Sahai from WBR Corp. The award recognises people's contribution to their respective fields. “I'm grateful to my dad, the award presenters, Ekta Kapoor, Rakesh Roshan, my team, and the lakhs of followers of Numerology, who are mostly common people,“ says Jumaani.
I asked myself, ‘is this is the end?’ That was a very scary moment-Neha Dhupia
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Aastha Atray Banan (MID-DAY; December 31, 2017)
A t the end of 2016, Neha Dhupia found herself in a slump. “I saw myself sitting at home with no work, I was beating myself up for no fault of mine, and I saw it reflecting on it my mind and body. I had a flash, where I asked myself, ‘is this is the end?’ That was a very scary moment, and I knew I had to turn it around. I couldn’t let it be the end, I couldn’t go back to where I had come from,” says Dhupia, as we talk on the sets of the chat show she hosts.
Dhupia, dressed in a flowing blue dress, today looks like a woman completely in charge, of her life and career. But even though she won the Miss India title in 2002, the turnaround in career, she says came on January 1, 2017, when she was on holiday in New York with bestie Karan Johar. “Karan and I were having coffee and I said to him ‘you are serving me coffee, and you have the Midas touch. So, just imagine what a year it’s going to be. I am going to make this a tradition,” she laughs.
Since then, Dhupia has hosted a podcast, starred in movies (Tumhari Sulu, Hindi Medium, Qarib Qarib Singlle), hosted Roadies, is the new host of BFF with Vogue, and has been inducted and firmly established as a Bollywood insider, personally and professionally (she is also in Johar’s next movie). “I hate being called a Bollywood insider — I just host a show where I interview people. Karan has been a friend for a long time now — I would describe him like nobody would believe — simple, that’s what he is.”
Her down-to-earth demeanour is only accentuated by her never-say-die attitude. It’s no wonder then that the Army brat, who has starred in the controversial Julie (2004), has managed to stick around for 15 years. “I realised that if I was not satisfied by the work I am getting, I had to create my own work. I am semi famous, I have some contacts — I am going to make the most of it. You’ve got to get up and hustle every day. Some things have done well, but there are also hundred things I did that didn’t work. The beauty of failing is that you have tried.”
The year ended on a bang with her winning a film award for best supporting actress for Tumhari Sulu. “I dedicated the award to every one who was standing on the sidelines. There is no more an outsider in this industry than I am. I have no background ; at one point, my job was to change shoes of models back stage. I have so much gratitude for this — talking to you, the photographer taking my pictures, this AC trailer, I am so thankful for every single thing.”
But, Dhupia is quick to point out that it wouldn’t be possible without her discipline and Army upbringing. “The biggest question on my group chat with my team is ‘when do you sleep?’. I can’t get into bed to sleep — I only pass out when I am exhausted.”
At the end of it, she says, it’s not just about your work, but also your confidence and strength. “Whether it’s the youth who look up to me thanks to Roadies, or women who like the way I dress — You never know how you are impacting people.”
2017: The year when Everywoman dominated
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Mayank Shekhar (MID-DAY; December 30, 2017)
Tanuja Chandra’s Qarib Qarib Singlle, if you recall, was about Irrfan’s rather ‘rangeela’ character taking his online date to meet his past three lovers, just so he can prove to her how women, even when they’re not with him, continue to adore him still.
The second stop on their road trip is in Rishikesh. You sort of have an idea what kinda Girlfriend No 1’ will show up. The girl who emerges instead is a podgy, giggly middle-class woman, brimming with life and realism, and yet so much fun, that that scene/moment/cameo/character remains for me the absolute highlight of 2017. As is the heroine of Qarib — Parvathy — who got introduced to Bollywood with the film (she has over 20 acting credits back in Kerala). And thanks to my interest in her, I got to see another gem (in Malayalam) this year, Mahesh Narayan’s Take Off, which is based on the same incident as Tiger Zinda Hai (abduction of Indian nurses by the IS in Tikrit, Iraq). Parvathy plays the savior, protagonist. She’s a nurse (as against Salman’s Rambo). So you know Take Off is absolutely nothing like Tiger.

But more importantly Parvathy’s Sameera in Take Off looks/behaves nothing like Qarib’s Jaya. Further, I decided to catch Anjali Menon’s Bangalore Days (2014), which has three important female characters. It was impossible for me to figure out which of the three was Parvathy, the reason I’d clicked on the film in the first place (she plays a physically challenged RJ in this strikingly mature romantic film).
Clearly Parvathy exhibits a chameleon like quality to transform herself from one photograph to another, let alone roles — something we often associate with actor Kangana Ranaut in Mumbai. Another feature you could tag her along with Ranaut for is an ability to call out hypocrisy, take on detractors, rather than call a spade a donkey. As the brave Parvathy did late this year, taking on trolls who had problems with the fact that she had a problem with misogyny in one of superstar Mamoothy’s films.
Is this a good way to challenge centuries of insensitivity towards women in general (and therefore in cinema)? Yes. But along with playing parts in pictures that change the scenery just as well. As did Vidya Balan walking on to the screen as an over-weight aunty from Virar, and cracking it as Sulu in Tumhari Sulu. Or Sridevi did as a clever mom in Mom, planning to avenge her daughter’s rape. Or in fact Bhumi Pednekar, perhaps more than others did, stepping out in the open, defecating in the wilds, to shine a torch on the problem of toilets (or lack of them) in India, for a film called Toilet, which earned over Rs 100 crore.
Gauging global/box-office appeal of Priyanka Chopra, Anushka Sharma and Deepika Paukone, we had dubbed 2017 ‘year of the woman’ for Bollywood. It takes generations for society (and hence cinema) to go from appreciating the ‘Hot Woman’ to the Everywoman.
Sometimes it can happen in a year. It did.
I couldn’t be more proud of the journey I’ve had so far-Neha Dhupia
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Renuka Vyavahare (BOMBAY TIMES; November 18, 2017)
Currently, her focus is Tumhari Sulu in which she plays Maria, Vidya’s boss at the radio station. She says, “What I liked the most about Tumhari Sulu was the fact that it was every woman’s story. We often talk about empowering women but we should actually enable them because they’re empowered anyway. Sulu underlines that thought. She says, ‘Main kar sakti hai’. A woman can be both a homemaker and a pro at work.”
Elaborating on her character, Neha adds, “Maria is more than just a boss. She extends support to Sulu. It’s interesting to see how two contrasting women want the same things in life. If Sulu is a dreamer, Maria is a doer who helps Sulu become one, too. It’s so heartening to see a man (debutant director Suresh Triveni) writing such a wonderful story about women.”
It’s refreshing to see an artiste like Neha, who’s not hung up on the screen time she gets. For her, it’s the significance of the character in the story. She sums up, saying, “For me, it’s the script that matters. I want to be a part of great stories. I couldn’t be more proud of the journey I’ve had so far.”
(Crisp) Movie Review: QARIB QARIB SINGLLE by FENIL SETA
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Qarib Qarib Singlle is the big surprise of the season. The film has come unannounced and with less excitement, but it sure to grow big time just like Irrfan Khan’s previous films like Hindi Medium, Talvar and Piku. The big advantage of the film is that the writing and execution is completely handled by women (story by Kamna Chandra, screenplay by Tanuja Chandra and Gazal Dhaliwal, dialogues by Gazal Dhaliwal and directed by Tanuja Chandra). These lovely women have ensured that the film has certain subtleties that other films don’t. Also, the bond that the principle characters share with each other is beautifully done without making it in your face. And yes, there’s lot of humour and light hearted moments and few scenes are sure to bring the house down! The film is shot in some wonderful locations and it was so good to finally see Gangtok in a full-fledged film! Irrfan Khan steals the show yet again. He has played so many quirky characters and yet each one is different from the other. This actor is in a roll – hats off! Parvathy Thiruvoth is a brilliant discovery and such an unusual and yet apt choice for this role. She has the look of the girl-next-door and performance wise, she is first rate. All in all, Qarib Qarib Singlle shouldn’t be missed at any cost. Highly recommended!
My rating - **** out of 5!
Fenil's Bollywood Talk # 490
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IT’S IRRFAN KHAN VS RAJKUMMAR RAO THIS FRIDAY!
The month of November is all set to be dominated by small and medium budget releases. Not a single biggie is releasing and hence, all these films will try their luck before the event film Padmavati takes over on December 1. This week, 2 small films are releasing. Both look interesting but the buzz is limited. My analysis:
QARIB QARIB SINGLLE: It is directed by Tanuja Chandra, known for intense films. But this flick is quite light-hearted and seems interesting. It is the story of a couple who meets on a dating website and then goes on a cross-country trip. Irrfan Khan looks great and in his element as always. Southern actress Parvathy also seems to be a great actor and it’ll be great to see their chemistry. The film has some funny scenes and the travel bit can be interesting to see. At the same time, the film looks quite niche and hence, its opening will definitely be affected. Irrfan Khan however has carved a niche thanks to films like Piku and Hindi Medium. So, if Qarib Qarib Singlle gets good response, its collections can go up significantly from Day 2.
SHAADI MEIN ZAROOR AANA: The trailer of the film is highly impressive – when it begins, it gives a feeling of a cute love story set in a small-town in North India. But suddenly, it changes into a kind of a revenge drama. Rajkummar Rao is the male lead and he looks quite great in the romantic as well as I-am-gonna-finish-you avatar, at least in the trailers. Kriti Kharbanda, last seen in Raaz Reboot and Guest Iin London, is cast opposite him. The trailer raises curiosity as one wonders what exactly went wrong and why Rajkummar is hell bent on destroying Kriti. There’s also an apprehension that the twist in this film might be similar to Badrinath Ki Dulhania. Despite the great trailer, the excitement for the film is very low. Songs haven’t worked. Its opening is definitely going to be less than Qarib Qarib Singlle and its upto the content to do the talking and attract moviegoers in hordes.
WHICH FILM WOULD YOU LIKE TO SEE AND WHY? DO LET ME KNOW!
Check out Irrfan Khan's wonderful coffee date with a fan
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Renuka Vyavahare (BOMBAY TIMES; November 9, 2017)
Irrfan's upcoming film Qarib
Qarib Singlle lets you in on his romantic side. In keeping with the
theme of the film, BT gave a diehard Irrfan fan - 21-year-old Sheena
Oberoi - a golden opportunity to go on a coffee date with her favourite
actor. Instead of us doing the Q & A, we handed over the reins to the
fan to pose the questions. Irrfan charmed the youngster with his
repartee and honest confessions, including his dislike for being gifted
flowers and meeting people who aren't true to themselves. The talented
actor also got candid about love and modern-day relationships in his
conversation with Sheena, who was impressed by her dashing 'date'. Excerpts...
Sheena: This is the third date of my life and I cannot believe that it's with you. My sister often tells me that I talk a lot on dates and tend to get nervous. Does it happen to you, too?
Irrfan: Does your sister accompany you on dates? How does she know that you talk a lot? Does she stalk your dates also? (laughs) Well, as far as I am concerned, I feel great to be with someone who talks a lot because I don't. I can listen to someone, who is willing to take charge of the conversation. Personally, I feel that words are not always necessary.
Sheena: What is the first thing you notice about a girl when you are on a date?
Irrfan: A unique, attractive face and a warm and soothing smile. That's what I noticed about you, Sheena. I was about to compliment you and I didn't know that you were my date! (smiles)
Sheena: This is the age of equality. So, when you go out with a woman, do you offer to pay the bill or do you prefer splitting it?
Irrfan: I would definitely like to pay. Of course, unless the woman gets offended and insists on paying. If I can afford it, what's the harm in treating the people I like?
Sheena: What attracts you to a woman and what puts you off?
Irrfan: I like a good sense of humour and honesty. What I don't like is someone unnecessarily intellectualizing things. I also don't like people who put on a mask and pretend to be someone they are not. I remember checking out a dating app when I was abroad. I soon figured that most of the girls follow certain guidelines. The way they pose for pictures (the typical pout and smile), what kind of picture needs to be uploaded and things like that...I noticed that 90% of women followed this pattern, and that's not natural. Falseness puts me off. Be yourself. Also, sometimes they are judgemental and they want to know what lies ahead before getting into something. It's like wanting to find their destination before they could start their journey. Why plan so much? I love people who are comfortable with uncertainties.
Sheena: What's your take on strong, opinionated women?
Irrfan: Opinionated makes me a bit uncomfortable, but strong women, I appreciate. When you start pitting one gender against the other, that's the basis of a conflict. Every gender has its uniqueness and that cannot be replaced. One has to under stand that. Men and women make a complete picture and things will be harmonious when they co-exist, without debating about who is stronger than the other.
Sheena: How do you deal with your exes?
Irrfan: In any intense relationship, when your expectations are not fulfilled, you start blaming each other and things get ugly. You can no longer evolve together as you keep pulling each other down. That's when you part ways and you must do it brutally, as there is no point stretching what's already broken. But all the good things that the person has taught you or shared with you can never be forgotten. It changes your life. I have learnt a lot from different relationships. I don't hold grudges and blame others.
Sheena: What's your take on modern-day relationships, often replete with online dating apps and casual flings?
Irrfan: When you look at sex as a commodity, it loses the potential of being something more than just that. Having said that, if a casual relationship has mutual consent, why should one look down upon it? I have a problem when people put up a facade of being in a serious relationship. When it comes to love, my views used to be old-school. I am still trying to understand what it means.
Sheena: This is the third date of my life and I cannot believe that it's with you. My sister often tells me that I talk a lot on dates and tend to get nervous. Does it happen to you, too?
Irrfan: Does your sister accompany you on dates? How does she know that you talk a lot? Does she stalk your dates also? (laughs) Well, as far as I am concerned, I feel great to be with someone who talks a lot because I don't. I can listen to someone, who is willing to take charge of the conversation. Personally, I feel that words are not always necessary.
Sheena: What is the first thing you notice about a girl when you are on a date?
Irrfan: A unique, attractive face and a warm and soothing smile. That's what I noticed about you, Sheena. I was about to compliment you and I didn't know that you were my date! (smiles)
Sheena: This is the age of equality. So, when you go out with a woman, do you offer to pay the bill or do you prefer splitting it?
Irrfan: I would definitely like to pay. Of course, unless the woman gets offended and insists on paying. If I can afford it, what's the harm in treating the people I like?
Sheena: What attracts you to a woman and what puts you off?
Irrfan: I like a good sense of humour and honesty. What I don't like is someone unnecessarily intellectualizing things. I also don't like people who put on a mask and pretend to be someone they are not. I remember checking out a dating app when I was abroad. I soon figured that most of the girls follow certain guidelines. The way they pose for pictures (the typical pout and smile), what kind of picture needs to be uploaded and things like that...I noticed that 90% of women followed this pattern, and that's not natural. Falseness puts me off. Be yourself. Also, sometimes they are judgemental and they want to know what lies ahead before getting into something. It's like wanting to find their destination before they could start their journey. Why plan so much? I love people who are comfortable with uncertainties.
Sheena: What's your take on strong, opinionated women?
Irrfan: Opinionated makes me a bit uncomfortable, but strong women, I appreciate. When you start pitting one gender against the other, that's the basis of a conflict. Every gender has its uniqueness and that cannot be replaced. One has to under stand that. Men and women make a complete picture and things will be harmonious when they co-exist, without debating about who is stronger than the other.
Sheena: How do you deal with your exes?
Irrfan: In any intense relationship, when your expectations are not fulfilled, you start blaming each other and things get ugly. You can no longer evolve together as you keep pulling each other down. That's when you part ways and you must do it brutally, as there is no point stretching what's already broken. But all the good things that the person has taught you or shared with you can never be forgotten. It changes your life. I have learnt a lot from different relationships. I don't hold grudges and blame others.
Sheena: What's your take on modern-day relationships, often replete with online dating apps and casual flings?
Irrfan: When you look at sex as a commodity, it loses the potential of being something more than just that. Having said that, if a casual relationship has mutual consent, why should one look down upon it? I have a problem when people put up a facade of being in a serious relationship. When it comes to love, my views used to be old-school. I am still trying to understand what it means.
I’m not even attached to my own name-Irrfan Khan
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Nayandeep Rakshit (DNA; November 7, 2017)
It’s not easy to please Irrfan Khan. With a film or a conversation. He admits, “After the fourth interview, I’m almost done, exhausted and ready to retire.” The actor is currently busy promoting his next Qarib Qarib Singlle and clearly isn’t happy. “It takes more effort on my part to finish the promotions than a film,” he laughs as we sit over a cuppa coffee, to discuss cinema and his choices, at length. Over the next half-an-hour, Irrfan explains why he’s steered his career the way he has, and what he plans to do, here on. Excerpts:
People start expecting more from actors like you or Tabu even if it’s a masala film that you are acting in. Does that put pressure on you?
It becomes a pressure when it’s not your personal need as well. If you also want that as well, you are drawn to that and you seek it. It comes naturally to you and you thrive on that. If I was only looking for masala films, and fortunately or unfortunately, I get acknowledgment in content-driven films, then it becomes a problem. Phir main kahanse lau? Mujhe samajh hi nahi hai iski. I would feel that okay, these films have worked but mujhe pata nahi kaise and then, it becomes a pressure. Not now, because I am expecting and looking out for these kind of roles, which again the audience is expecting from me.
When you started off, there weren’t as many options for actors like you. But that has changed over the years...
It’s also because of the changing times. The Indian audience is exposed to world cinema today. That’s why Indians today are eager to see their own actors doing films with diverse storytelling. The perception is definitely changing in that context. It’s a very interesting and a great change for us. Thank God that the audience is expecting this. If they only aren’t opening up to the idea, then what would we do with ourselves. Also, the audience is increasing for these kind of subjects. Because of Netflix, Amazon and everything else, you suddenly see so many great actors coming suddenly out of the blue. There’s a film, there are series, there are auditions you see and you feel where are these actors coming from. There’s this mahaul that’s growing and I am very happy about it.
So you’re comfortable being an actor and not a star?
I don’t believe in all these categories. It’s the compulsion for the media to give certain tags to actors. Sometimes, they just create a vocabulary and hashtags for people. It doesn’t matter to me. Even if people don’t call me by my own name, I am okay with it. I’m not even attached to my own name. If that doesn’t make a difference, then why would it matter whether people refer to me as an actor or as a star.
Previously, the box office wasn’t the only parameter of success, but today, that’s the be-all and end-all. Has your perception of success and failure changed, too?
It was never about the box office. And it will never be. Chahein even if I have done a film which is worth Rs 1000 crore at the box office, I will never ever judge my films vis-a-vis numbers. I don’t remember numbers. I don’t keep a record of all that. Do we talk about how much Dilip Kumar’s films made at the box office? I know him because of what his films did to me. That’s how I remember films. This whole box office talk is created by the media. The PR of a movie has created this monster on a wrong scale. It’s definitely important for movies to do a particular kind of business, so that you can keep on making films and the producer doesn’t lose money. That is also just one aspect of filmmaking. A movie’s success is in the time and its shelf life.
Are you happy that the gap between conventional and unconventional films has slowly been merged?
We were trying for a change like this when I was doing a film called Haasil. We kept saying that people shouldn’t consume cinema as art cinema or parallel cinema. When I was asked this question about when I will be doing films in the commercial space, I always said and I will still say that Haasil, Maqbool and Paan Singh Tomar were always commercial cinema for me. I’m here to change the definitions and perceptions for myself and for others as well. That’s what I will keep doing. I won’t fall into one category and definition.
Hindi Medium was a huge hit. Now, Qarib Qarib Singlle is also in that space and the audience’s reception might be as good for this, too...
Again, it depends on how the film works. It could give an impression that it’s a feel-good film. But unless and until people feel happy after watching it, you don’t know. Yes, our audience tends to watch more celebratory films that don’t make you think. A large number of audiences is like that — they just want timepass. But I’m doing films which are timepass but aren’t fluff. These films should interact with you. Trust me, there are aspects of QQS which will resonate with each of us. I can’t do a uni-dimensional film which is just timepass and nothing else.
How has your choices with films changed in the last two years?
Honestly, the way the audience has reacted to my last few films has given a lot of clarity and confidence to what I should do. That is not superficial. One thing which life has taught me is that I can’t afford to do things, just for the sake of money. If I need fame, I cannot pretend that I’m doing films for other reasons. I like taking things head-on. I have become more conscious about doing my kind of cinema, where it matters to me and it isn’t just a matter of survival anymore. It’s not like I will do a film thinking that it might do great at the box office and give me star status. I don’t want to be in that situation. How it has changed me? Now, I consider fame and money a by-product only. Earlier, they were the bigger reasons, when I was struggling. And, to all the actors who are struggling now, I want to tell them, yes, money is important but you shouldn’t make it a primary goal. It will follow anyway. What you need to listen to, is your inner voice and your passion. That would be your real achievement or earning.
Have you ever felt that because of your intensity as an actor, you don’t get offered too many comedies?
I miss comedies, now. I had been wanting to do a comedy. I was offered a few films, even some Anees Bazmee films. But I had done those kind of comedies previously. I was waiting for something diversely different from what I had done. Which is why I picked Hindi Medium. Yes, I want to do a lot more comedy films but I also get bored very easily with msyelf. That can be a blessing in disguise, so I cannot keep on repeating same things. I need to surprise myself.
Do you discuss your films with your wife and son?
I don’t take their suggestions but when they happen to know about a film or they watch a trailer, they do have their opinion. Sometimes, it’s completely opposite of what I’m expecting (Smiles) Their opinion matters a lot. But I feel they don’t have enough time for me to be able to sit them down and make them read my scripts. They are busier than me. For what I don’t know! I am fortunate to get their chunk of time with me. It’s not like I don’t have time for them. It’s the other way round (Laughs).
Have they ever said you shouldn’t have done some films?
They have commented on certain films asking me why I did those films. But I wouldn’t like to get into the name-game. (Smiles)
Qarib Qarib Singlle: Irrfan Khan & Parvathy journey through India to find love
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BOMBAY TIMES (November 7, 2017)
In keeping with the
storyline of Qarib Qarib Singlle (QQS), in which the lead characters
meet online and decide to take their relationship ahead as they travel
to a few places together, the movie's team had the lead actors, Irrfan
and Parvathy, tour various cities across India. Given the treatment of
the romcom, which unfolds like a travelogue, Irrfan made a trip to the
City of Joy, Kolkata to promote the film.
That's not all; members of the media along with Irrfan went on a boat ride on the river Hooghly with the Howrah Bridge in the backdrop. Recollecting the famous lines mouthed by Rajesh Khanna from a film shot in Kolkata, Amar Prem, Irrfan who was missing his leading lady from the film, south star Parvathy, (who couldn't travel with him) took to his social media handle and posted, “#Parvathy, I hate tears re!! Jald milo Mumbai mein, Kolkata ki date to #QaribQarib akele hi khatam ho gayee!!“ Meanwhile, Parvathy was quick to respond and say, “Irrfan #qaribqarib pohonch gaye Yogi ji!! No more tears! No more waiting in dating!“
Talking about the promotional strategy of the film, Sujay Kutty, business head of Zee Studios, one of the producers of the film says, “QQS is a quirky romantic film about two strangers who fall in love. While charting out the promotional strategy of the film we ensured that the usual methods that are adopted were not put to use here. It's important to be true to the film even with promotions and that's what we have done.“

Director Tanuja Chandra, who returns to filmmaking after over a decade with this slice-of-life film, adds, “The most interesting aspect of the promotion of Qarib Qarib Singlle has been that the media greets us with a smile! I guess that's what a spirited, fun film does; it gives us a break from our anxieties and troubles for a while. The promotion has brought in an element of sweetness and that's what has made it distinct for me.“
After a short trip to Kolkata, Irrfan launched the romantic number Jaane De from the film at a suburban restaurant in Mumbai. The team of Qarib Qarib Singlle will now be promoting the film in Delhi followed by Irrfan traveling to Aurangabad before the film opens in cinemas on November 10.
While Irrfan has based his character on his son Babil and is shown dressed in the quirkiest of clothes in the film, Parvathy will be seen in the avatar of the girl-next-door. The plot revolves around Jaya and Yogi, essayed by Parvathy and Irrfan respectively, who meet through an online dating website and set out on a journey . Whether they eventually fall in love; after travelling together through Rishikesh, Bikaner and Gangtok and experiencing various ups and downs, forms the rest of the plot.
That's not all; members of the media along with Irrfan went on a boat ride on the river Hooghly with the Howrah Bridge in the backdrop. Recollecting the famous lines mouthed by Rajesh Khanna from a film shot in Kolkata, Amar Prem, Irrfan who was missing his leading lady from the film, south star Parvathy, (who couldn't travel with him) took to his social media handle and posted, “#Parvathy, I hate tears re!! Jald milo Mumbai mein, Kolkata ki date to #QaribQarib akele hi khatam ho gayee!!“ Meanwhile, Parvathy was quick to respond and say, “Irrfan #qaribqarib pohonch gaye Yogi ji!! No more tears! No more waiting in dating!“
Talking about the promotional strategy of the film, Sujay Kutty, business head of Zee Studios, one of the producers of the film says, “QQS is a quirky romantic film about two strangers who fall in love. While charting out the promotional strategy of the film we ensured that the usual methods that are adopted were not put to use here. It's important to be true to the film even with promotions and that's what we have done.“
Director Tanuja Chandra, who returns to filmmaking after over a decade with this slice-of-life film, adds, “The most interesting aspect of the promotion of Qarib Qarib Singlle has been that the media greets us with a smile! I guess that's what a spirited, fun film does; it gives us a break from our anxieties and troubles for a while. The promotion has brought in an element of sweetness and that's what has made it distinct for me.“
After a short trip to Kolkata, Irrfan launched the romantic number Jaane De from the film at a suburban restaurant in Mumbai. The team of Qarib Qarib Singlle will now be promoting the film in Delhi followed by Irrfan traveling to Aurangabad before the film opens in cinemas on November 10.
While Irrfan has based his character on his son Babil and is shown dressed in the quirkiest of clothes in the film, Parvathy will be seen in the avatar of the girl-next-door. The plot revolves around Jaya and Yogi, essayed by Parvathy and Irrfan respectively, who meet through an online dating website and set out on a journey . Whether they eventually fall in love; after travelling together through Rishikesh, Bikaner and Gangtok and experiencing various ups and downs, forms the rest of the plot.
In Bollywood, if you can guarantee success, it doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman-Tanuja Chandra
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Rachana Dubey (BOMBAY TIMES; November 6, 2017)
Eleven years after her last
release, director Tanuja Chandra is all set to end her professional
hibernation with Qarib Qarib Singlle. The Irrfan-Parvathy starrer is
nothing like her previous outings - there's no blood, no gore, no revenge
seekers. In the midst of adding final touches to her labour of love,
the filmmaker speaks to BT about the changing industry dynamics, the
need for more women filmmakers, why nepotism doesn't work for her and
why the portrayal of women's lib doesn't make sense in Bollywood just
yet. Excerpts...
You went into hibernation for more than a decade after Zindaggi Rocks (2006). What happened?
I never stopped working on scripts - some of them were on the verge of becoming films, but they didn't take off. Even Qarib Qarib Singlle took us three years. In the meantime, I wrote a book of short stories and made a short film with Kartik Aaryan. I was pitching to get projects on the rail. The problem is, people think that a director's job starts with 'action' and ends with 'cut'. They don't realize that there's more to it.
Constant delays and hurdles in getting projects on floors can leave even the most seasoned filmmaker cynical. Did that happen to you, too?
I didn't get cynical. Of course, the wait is frustrating, but I don't have it in me to give up. I was determined to keep at it because no one forced me into this profession. I am not a cry baby, who says that the world has wronged me. I will respond with anger, but there's no self-pity. The world is not responsible for our lives, we are. Having said that, the number of women directors has increased from the time I started, but it's not as much as it should have been. The numbers haven't doubled or tripled, though women are meticulous and talented. Naturally, something is coming in their way. There's no sense in not utilizing 50 per cent of the work force, but the world at large is not open to women moving up.
Do you think that the fundamental flaw lies in the way we raise our boys and girls?
Yes, the way you raise a child makes a lot of difference. For instance, my sister, brother and I were always made to believe that we are all equal. There has to be mutual respect between men and women. Don't look down upon them - that interaction will change the world, movies won't. Centuries of conditioning has made us believe that women are lesser than men. We have to fight that tide. And then, when we make movies, women empowerment will feel real. Right now, it's all just speech-giving and flag-waving to say that aurat kum nahin hai. Pehle usse kum maan-na bandh karo.
Be it sexual exploitation of female actors or the disparity in their remuneration, sexism in showbiz has been a topic of much discussion, recently. As a female filmmaker in Bollywood, what's your take on the issue?
There is sexism in our industry, but it features in all professional domains. Sometimes, I tend to think that it might be lesser here. In Bollywood, if you can guarantee success, it doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman. Having said that, it's not easy to make women-centric films - it has always faced resistance. Whenever I choose a female-oriented film, people ask me, 'Which star is getting attached to this?' or worse, 'Who is the hero?' The industry chooses to be traditional even when there is a treasure trove of stories around. There is so much we need to catch up with.
Interestingly, Irrfan recently told BT that he considers Parvathy to be the 'hero' of this film...
Even in the film, Irrfan's character (Yogi) applauds a self-made woman. In fact, that's one of the reasons why Yogi is very special to me. The very fact that we highlight this aspect shows that it's not common. It has to stop being a rarity. It should come to a point where we shouldn't exclaim over finding such men around us.
Qarib Qarib Singlle is unlike the gory, revenge dramas you've largely made in the past. What prompted you to change lanes? Also, what exactly does the title mean?
I will go back to thrillers and action because I love them. I decided to make this film because my mother's radio play stayed with me, and I decided to set it in contemporary times. I've always believed that it's tougher to do a romcom. The title of the film means that you're never completely single. In Qarib Qarib Singlle, the lead pair is not each other's pehla pyaar. They both come with a past and are attached to it. The world says forget and move on. I say, remember it and honour it for teaching you so much. Remember it with warmth and never stop seeking love.
You went into hibernation for more than a decade after Zindaggi Rocks (2006). What happened?
I never stopped working on scripts - some of them were on the verge of becoming films, but they didn't take off. Even Qarib Qarib Singlle took us three years. In the meantime, I wrote a book of short stories and made a short film with Kartik Aaryan. I was pitching to get projects on the rail. The problem is, people think that a director's job starts with 'action' and ends with 'cut'. They don't realize that there's more to it.
Constant delays and hurdles in getting projects on floors can leave even the most seasoned filmmaker cynical. Did that happen to you, too?
I didn't get cynical. Of course, the wait is frustrating, but I don't have it in me to give up. I was determined to keep at it because no one forced me into this profession. I am not a cry baby, who says that the world has wronged me. I will respond with anger, but there's no self-pity. The world is not responsible for our lives, we are. Having said that, the number of women directors has increased from the time I started, but it's not as much as it should have been. The numbers haven't doubled or tripled, though women are meticulous and talented. Naturally, something is coming in their way. There's no sense in not utilizing 50 per cent of the work force, but the world at large is not open to women moving up.
Do you think that the fundamental flaw lies in the way we raise our boys and girls?
Yes, the way you raise a child makes a lot of difference. For instance, my sister, brother and I were always made to believe that we are all equal. There has to be mutual respect between men and women. Don't look down upon them - that interaction will change the world, movies won't. Centuries of conditioning has made us believe that women are lesser than men. We have to fight that tide. And then, when we make movies, women empowerment will feel real. Right now, it's all just speech-giving and flag-waving to say that aurat kum nahin hai. Pehle usse kum maan-na bandh karo.
Be it sexual exploitation of female actors or the disparity in their remuneration, sexism in showbiz has been a topic of much discussion, recently. As a female filmmaker in Bollywood, what's your take on the issue?
There is sexism in our industry, but it features in all professional domains. Sometimes, I tend to think that it might be lesser here. In Bollywood, if you can guarantee success, it doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman. Having said that, it's not easy to make women-centric films - it has always faced resistance. Whenever I choose a female-oriented film, people ask me, 'Which star is getting attached to this?' or worse, 'Who is the hero?' The industry chooses to be traditional even when there is a treasure trove of stories around. There is so much we need to catch up with.
Interestingly, Irrfan recently told BT that he considers Parvathy to be the 'hero' of this film...
Even in the film, Irrfan's character (Yogi) applauds a self-made woman. In fact, that's one of the reasons why Yogi is very special to me. The very fact that we highlight this aspect shows that it's not common. It has to stop being a rarity. It should come to a point where we shouldn't exclaim over finding such men around us.
Qarib Qarib Singlle is unlike the gory, revenge dramas you've largely made in the past. What prompted you to change lanes? Also, what exactly does the title mean?
I will go back to thrillers and action because I love them. I decided to make this film because my mother's radio play stayed with me, and I decided to set it in contemporary times. I've always believed that it's tougher to do a romcom. The title of the film means that you're never completely single. In Qarib Qarib Singlle, the lead pair is not each other's pehla pyaar. They both come with a past and are attached to it. The world says forget and move on. I say, remember it and honour it for teaching you so much. Remember it with warmth and never stop seeking love.
Initially, I used to wonder if a face like mine can ever make it big in the industry-Irrfan Khan
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Neha Maheshwri (BOMBAY TIMES; November 2, 2017)
He is a romantic at heart,
but his idea of romance is a tad different. Just like his views on other
things - Indian cinema, success and superstardom. Irrfan, never once had
a shred of doubt about becoming an actor or his acting prowess. But
yes, he confesses, “I was convinced ki actor toh bann jaayenge, par love
stories karne ka mauka nahi milega.“ Once again, we will see him in a
romantic role in Qarib Qarib Singlle, directed by Tanuja Chandra, where he lets the leading lady -Parvathy -take
centre stage.In a chat with BT, he tells us about how he has always
defied the norm -be it in love, life or movies.
In an earlier interview to BT, you had spoken about how you view romance very differently in movies and in reality. Qarib Qarib Singlle is yet another film where you are playing the romantic lead a tad differently from the usual fare...
Since relationship is an intrinsic part of a human being, the society wants to take control of it, be judgmental about it and put it in a mould. We need to know that it is our right and we should celebrate the phenomena. What is love and when do you 'fall in love', is a question we toy with all our life. We all have to find our own definition for this emotion.
Personally, does saying the three words (I Love You) come easy to you?
I say it all the time. Maybe not verbally, but in my mind.
But when expressed in words, it has a deeper impact. So, do your loved ones, including your wife, want to hear those magical words?
Oh, every day! Despite being a romantic person, I have not been able to express much love. There is so much of it bottled up that I take it out through my characters.
It’s also true that the more you get love, the more you want it…
That means you are seeking acknowledgment. During a break-up, the person who has to abide by the decision of his lover to split feels more miserable. It’s the ego that doesn’t allow him to take it well. That’s not love. For me, love is not about possessing someone. As human beings, we are bound to get hurt, but what’s important is how we deal with it — whether you impose restrictions on that person or understand her, let her explore and celebrate life with somebody else.
So, is that the premise of Qarib Qarib Singlle?
Though it doesn’t reach that point, there is a kind of interaction between the man and the woman that took me back to my past. I was born in a conventional family, where we couldn’t relate to the idea of two opposite genders getting friendly. For us, it either led to love or marriage. I was furious when my sister had an affair. I would feel, ‘Main uss saale ko jaan se maar doon’. Now it occurs to me that I was conditioned according to the societal norms. This film is a departure from the Irrfan I knew. In this one, the opposite gender is treated as an equal and her being a girl doesn’t come into play. It is about how a man and a woman come together organically, and evolve in a relationship.
When you began your career, actors were slotted more easily than today. For most part, you were seen as an actor who is here to play only intense, deep roles. Was it a struggle to break away from it?
Back then, I had never imagined that I would be offered love stories. Though I had this burning desire to do such films, I was convinced ki actor toh bann jaayenge, par love stories karne ka mauka nahi milega. I felt limited, but life is full of surprises. I think the desire was so intense that I ended up doing a love story in Hollywood. Having said that, everybody is not Shoojit Sircar. Who would have imagined me with Deepika Padukone in a romantic setup like Piku? At times, an actor has to stretch the imagination of the director to show that it’s a possibility and he can do the unthinkable.
Do you approach characters in Hollywood films differently vis-a-vis Hindi films?
Every film — national or international — has its own sur and sensitivity. Even in Hollywood, some films are layered, while some aren’t. You have to hold yourself back from burdening the film with your understanding, sensibility and experience. Some films don’t need it. In the beginning of my career, people would often tell me, ‘Yaar, thoda mota mota kar, thoda zor se bol, thodi kharaab acting kar le. Bhatt saab (Mahesh Bhatt) once told me that I should spoon-feed the audience. Woh mujhe line par laane ki koshish kar rahe the to fit into the requirement of commercial cinema. Sadly, most of our films post 60s aren’t ahead of time, and they are not offering what the audience would like to watch. I guess that’s why the audience don’t buy a movie ticket unless they are assured through word-of-mouth that the film is worth a watch. Five years down the line, it will be even more difficult for Hindi cinema to bring in the audience.
While Deepika played the title character in Piku, Tabu had a strong role in Maqbool. Saba Qamar’s was pivotal in Hindi Medium; In Qarib... too, Parvathy has an equally important part. You don’t seem to mind letting the heroine take centre stage...
While rehearsing my lines and thinking about my character in Qarib..., I reached the conclusion that the heroine is the main character. I was fascinated by her part, which is fantastic and multi-shaded. The first thing I told Parvathy when I met her was, ‘Aap toh bhai hero ho iss film ke. Humein bhi jagah de dena’. If the story becomes important for me, the length of my role doesn’t matter. If the heroine happens to be a narcissistic actress, then there will be a problem. However, I haven’t had any such experience, as I have a say in the casting of my films.
Is it because the characters in our films aren’t so nuanced?
We don’t make nuanced films. Agar superstars ka bas chale toh woh vanity van ke baahar hi camera laga lega, kyunki uska apna koi role nahi hai story sunane mein. There are very few directors who don’t give a damn if there is a superstar in their films; all they care about is the story. The rest of them are guided by the star’s image. This is the reason why when two-three good actors come together for a film, it often turns out to be a handicap as everybody is trying to pull the narrative towards them, taking the soul away from the story. In our country, people go mad watching Rajinikanth on screen. They go to watch Salman Khan and not the character he is playing. They might stop watching him if he plays the character seriously. Unko unka charm chahiye kyunki hamare yahaan film dekhna mele mein jaane jaisa hai. However, there is a huge chunk of evolved audience, which is now looking for a different experience.
It’s more convenient for studios to back films with superstars, no matter how good the content of a small film might be. The stars even take a call on the director and co-actors...
That’s true. No matter how good the subject is, the studio is more concerned about the star they have on board. But the system is changing because of the audience. If you notice the trend this year, movies like Hindi Medium, Bareilly Ki Barfi (produced by Junglee Pictures and B R Studios), Newton and Lipstick Under My Burkha have worked at the box office. The mindset won’t change till the time stars are leading it; it changes when the storytelling becomes diverse and important.
But box-office figures also matter, right? And in our industry, we often end up talking more about the BO numbers than the content of the film…
We have that perception and are propagating it. But then, actors like me are there to defy the notion (laughs).
There was a time when you were uncomfortable with your looks, but today, we often hear you being described as hot...
I enjoy such wonderful comments, but I don’t take them too seriously; I am not delusional. When I decided to become an actor, I always wondered whether a face like mine will ever make it big in the industry. I was in a naive way trying to see the possibility. So, I would try to change a few things about myself, like clasp my nose with a pin. I also felt that my upper lip was relatively higher and if somebody can make it droop a little, I might look like Randhir Kapoor. Every actor battles these doubts. Another thing that’s inevitable in an actor’s life is humiliation. I was so shy and conscious, that I never imagined I could ever face humiliation, but there is no escaping it. For an actor, acknowledgement and humiliation are two sides of the coin.
In an earlier interview to BT, you had spoken about how you view romance very differently in movies and in reality. Qarib Qarib Singlle is yet another film where you are playing the romantic lead a tad differently from the usual fare...
Since relationship is an intrinsic part of a human being, the society wants to take control of it, be judgmental about it and put it in a mould. We need to know that it is our right and we should celebrate the phenomena. What is love and when do you 'fall in love', is a question we toy with all our life. We all have to find our own definition for this emotion.
Personally, does saying the three words (I Love You) come easy to you?
I say it all the time. Maybe not verbally, but in my mind.
But when expressed in words, it has a deeper impact. So, do your loved ones, including your wife, want to hear those magical words?
Oh, every day! Despite being a romantic person, I have not been able to express much love. There is so much of it bottled up that I take it out through my characters.
It’s also true that the more you get love, the more you want it…
That means you are seeking acknowledgment. During a break-up, the person who has to abide by the decision of his lover to split feels more miserable. It’s the ego that doesn’t allow him to take it well. That’s not love. For me, love is not about possessing someone. As human beings, we are bound to get hurt, but what’s important is how we deal with it — whether you impose restrictions on that person or understand her, let her explore and celebrate life with somebody else.
So, is that the premise of Qarib Qarib Singlle?
Though it doesn’t reach that point, there is a kind of interaction between the man and the woman that took me back to my past. I was born in a conventional family, where we couldn’t relate to the idea of two opposite genders getting friendly. For us, it either led to love or marriage. I was furious when my sister had an affair. I would feel, ‘Main uss saale ko jaan se maar doon’. Now it occurs to me that I was conditioned according to the societal norms. This film is a departure from the Irrfan I knew. In this one, the opposite gender is treated as an equal and her being a girl doesn’t come into play. It is about how a man and a woman come together organically, and evolve in a relationship.
When you began your career, actors were slotted more easily than today. For most part, you were seen as an actor who is here to play only intense, deep roles. Was it a struggle to break away from it?
Back then, I had never imagined that I would be offered love stories. Though I had this burning desire to do such films, I was convinced ki actor toh bann jaayenge, par love stories karne ka mauka nahi milega. I felt limited, but life is full of surprises. I think the desire was so intense that I ended up doing a love story in Hollywood. Having said that, everybody is not Shoojit Sircar. Who would have imagined me with Deepika Padukone in a romantic setup like Piku? At times, an actor has to stretch the imagination of the director to show that it’s a possibility and he can do the unthinkable.
Do you approach characters in Hollywood films differently vis-a-vis Hindi films?
Every film — national or international — has its own sur and sensitivity. Even in Hollywood, some films are layered, while some aren’t. You have to hold yourself back from burdening the film with your understanding, sensibility and experience. Some films don’t need it. In the beginning of my career, people would often tell me, ‘Yaar, thoda mota mota kar, thoda zor se bol, thodi kharaab acting kar le. Bhatt saab (Mahesh Bhatt) once told me that I should spoon-feed the audience. Woh mujhe line par laane ki koshish kar rahe the to fit into the requirement of commercial cinema. Sadly, most of our films post 60s aren’t ahead of time, and they are not offering what the audience would like to watch. I guess that’s why the audience don’t buy a movie ticket unless they are assured through word-of-mouth that the film is worth a watch. Five years down the line, it will be even more difficult for Hindi cinema to bring in the audience.
While Deepika played the title character in Piku, Tabu had a strong role in Maqbool. Saba Qamar’s was pivotal in Hindi Medium; In Qarib... too, Parvathy has an equally important part. You don’t seem to mind letting the heroine take centre stage...
While rehearsing my lines and thinking about my character in Qarib..., I reached the conclusion that the heroine is the main character. I was fascinated by her part, which is fantastic and multi-shaded. The first thing I told Parvathy when I met her was, ‘Aap toh bhai hero ho iss film ke. Humein bhi jagah de dena’. If the story becomes important for me, the length of my role doesn’t matter. If the heroine happens to be a narcissistic actress, then there will be a problem. However, I haven’t had any such experience, as I have a say in the casting of my films.
Is it because the characters in our films aren’t so nuanced?
We don’t make nuanced films. Agar superstars ka bas chale toh woh vanity van ke baahar hi camera laga lega, kyunki uska apna koi role nahi hai story sunane mein. There are very few directors who don’t give a damn if there is a superstar in their films; all they care about is the story. The rest of them are guided by the star’s image. This is the reason why when two-three good actors come together for a film, it often turns out to be a handicap as everybody is trying to pull the narrative towards them, taking the soul away from the story. In our country, people go mad watching Rajinikanth on screen. They go to watch Salman Khan and not the character he is playing. They might stop watching him if he plays the character seriously. Unko unka charm chahiye kyunki hamare yahaan film dekhna mele mein jaane jaisa hai. However, there is a huge chunk of evolved audience, which is now looking for a different experience.
It’s more convenient for studios to back films with superstars, no matter how good the content of a small film might be. The stars even take a call on the director and co-actors...
That’s true. No matter how good the subject is, the studio is more concerned about the star they have on board. But the system is changing because of the audience. If you notice the trend this year, movies like Hindi Medium, Bareilly Ki Barfi (produced by Junglee Pictures and B R Studios), Newton and Lipstick Under My Burkha have worked at the box office. The mindset won’t change till the time stars are leading it; it changes when the storytelling becomes diverse and important.
But box-office figures also matter, right? And in our industry, we often end up talking more about the BO numbers than the content of the film…
We have that perception and are propagating it. But then, actors like me are there to defy the notion (laughs).
There was a time when you were uncomfortable with your looks, but today, we often hear you being described as hot...
I enjoy such wonderful comments, but I don’t take them too seriously; I am not delusional. When I decided to become an actor, I always wondered whether a face like mine will ever make it big in the industry. I was in a naive way trying to see the possibility. So, I would try to change a few things about myself, like clasp my nose with a pin. I also felt that my upper lip was relatively higher and if somebody can make it droop a little, I might look like Randhir Kapoor. Every actor battles these doubts. Another thing that’s inevitable in an actor’s life is humiliation. I was so shy and conscious, that I never imagined I could ever face humiliation, but there is no escaping it. For an actor, acknowledgement and humiliation are two sides of the coin.
I won’t talk about the casting couch as publicity for my film-Irrfan Khan
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Subhash K Jha (DNA; November 1, 2017)
Recently, while promoting his new film Qarib Qarib Singlle, Irrfan spoke out against casting couch, on how he had been propositioned by both men and women earlier in his career. Now, Irrfan feels it was a mistake. “I shouldn’t have spoken about it. The occasion was not right. It seemed like I was promoting the film by talking about this (the Harvey Weinstein case). I spoke about many other things. But that was highlighted.”
Irrfan is in Kolkata promoting his Indo-Bangladesh co-production Doob: No Bed Of Roses directed by Mostofa Sarwar Faroki where Irrfan has spoken his own Bengali lines. “It’s my Bengali film, hence special. And yes, I’ve spoken my own Bangla lines. I must say it was a challenge because Bengalis are very particular about how their language is spoken. One wrong pronunciation and you’re doomed. But I have managed to do it.” Irrfan is very proud of Doob. “I play a filmmaker who falls in love with a girl who’s his daughter’s friend. It’s something I’ve never attempted before, hence interesting. It is always a pleasure to be part of an international project.”
The West has already reacted with lavish praise for Irrfan’s performance in Doob. But Irrfan is hopeful that films like these would get an audience in India. “What I like about current filmmaking trends in India is the diversity. There are so many kinds of films being made. Of course, the big-ticket blockbusters will always dominate the box office. But other kinds of films are also getting an audience. Earlier this year, my film Hindi Medium turned out to be the biggest success of the year so far in terms of investment and profits.”
Right now, Irrfan is traversing various cities to promote Qarib Qarib Singlle. “It is a bright rom-com and I like what it has to say about the courtship stage of a relationship when everything is bright and rosy and glowing between the couple. When both are in love with each other, they are on their best behaviour. It is the most hopeful stage of a relationship and according to me, the best part of a man-woman relationship. Later, possessiveness, jealousy, anxiety and insecurities creep into a relationship and cause its downfall.”
After Mira Nair, Irrfan got to work with another female director Tanuja Chandra in Qareeb Qareeb Singlle. Irrfan disagrees with the contention that women are more sensitive to the nuances of the man-woman relationship. “In Tigmanshu Dhulia’s Saheb Biwi Aur Gangster Returns, the Bibi’s part was one of the best written for a female actor. I think filmmakers like Raj Khosla and Vijay Anand understood women as well as women directors, if not better. And it was a man (Shailendra) who wrote Kaaton Se Kheench Ke Yeh Aanchal for Waheeda Rehman in Guide. It is the ultimate anthem of women’s liberation.”
Speaking of Waheeda she is Irrfan’s co-star in Anup Singh’s Song Of Scorpions. And Irrfan just can’t stop raving. “It’s a dream come true to be in the same film as her. Though we don’t have any scenes together, I can feel her presence all the time.”
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