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Jab bhagwaan deta hai, toh chappar phaad kar deta hai, say Gurmeet Choudhary, Debina Bonnerjee on expecting their second child
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Neha Maheshwri (BOMBAY TIMES; August 22, 2022)
Of late, life has been full of surprises for Debina Bonnerjee and Gurmeet Choudhary. They welcomed their first child, Lianna, in April. Four months later, the couple took to Instagram to announce their second pregnancy. The ecstatic couple is waiting with bated breath for the arrival of their second child, who will be 10 months apart from Lianna.
Debina shares, “Becoming a mother is a beautiful feeling, especially for someone who kept motherhood on the shelf for a long time and then struggled for almost seven years to embrace it. When we learnt that we would be blessed with a second child, my happiness knew no bounds. We always wished to have two children.”
Gurmeet adds, “The journey to parenthood hasn’t been easy. Par jab bhagwaan deta hai, toh chappar phaad kar deta hai. When we got the news, it felt unbelievable. Our family is complete now. During my growing up years, I heard the saying ‘Hum Do Hamaare Do’ a lot and it has happened to us. Lianna ko uska bhai ya behen mil jaayegi. It’s important to have a sibling, especially when both parents are working. My children will have each other’s company.”
The couple says that the news of the second pregnancy caught them off guard. Debina says, “Guru (Gurmeet) couldn’t believe it. We were in denial for almost an hour. It’s nothing short of a miracle, as we were certain that it couldn’t happen to us. I was ecstatic not only about the news but also to learn that my body overcame medical problems. My mom says that Lianna has got her soulmate.”
Gurmeet agrees, “I could not believe it to be honest (laughs!). I suspected the pregnancy kit to be faulty and wanted to see a doctor. Till then I didn’t know whether it would be too premature to celebrate. Itne saalon tak aisa kuchh nahi hua toh achaaknak se kaise. Achhi cheez ko time lagta hai par ho jaati hai.”
While they are enjoying this phase, trolls have been busy taking digs at the couple ever since Debina posted about their second pregnancy. The actress, who usually turns a blind eye to trolling, admits that it took her a while to ace the art of not paying heed to toxicity.
She says, “There were comments like I only want to deliver children and I am not interested in getting back to my fit self or my career. Many said another pregnancy in quick succession is harmful to me. People don’t bat an eyelid before passing judgments. How can they expect me to consult a doctor for an unplanned pregnancy? They are worried if I would be able to spend enough time with Lianna. What do they expect me to do? It doesn’t happen at will and who better than me to vouch for it.”
She adds, “I can’t worry about people’s opinions anymore. Also, as a working mother, I don’t want to be a part of any race. If I want, I can get back to work six months after delivering my second child. I am not competing with anyone.”
Gurmeet has adopted a rather positive way of handling negativity on social media. He says, “Debina and I often sing Kuchh toh log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna. As actors and public figures, we are more exposed to scrutiny. However, I don’t delve into negative comments and consciously avoid the ones that appear even slightly negative. Toh na hi galat cheez padho na hi aapko affect hoga (smiles).”
My fight to become a mother went on for 5 years-Debina Bonnerjee
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Neha Maheshwri (BOMBAY TIMES; August 12, 2022)
Debina Bonnerjee and her husband, actor Gurmeet Choudhary, welcomed their baby girl, Lianna in April this year. The actress clearly seems to be relishing her new role as she often posts pictures with her bundle of joy. The journey to motherhood, however, has not been an easy one.
Debina says, “We got married in 2011 but back then, having a baby meant giving away my career. I also had apprehensions ki break liya toh career stake par aa jaayega. The plan was to find stability first before taking another step.”
The desire to embrace parenthood, however, did arise one day – five years ago. Debina, recalls, “I was part of a show and couldn’t quit it midway. So that resulted in a further delay of about two years. Soon after that, I decided to pursue motherhood aggressively. But jab aap nahi chaahte ho tab bohot kuchh hota hai, aur jab chaahte ho tab nahi hota hai.”
‘I TRIED FIVE TIMES BEFORE I FINALLY BECAME A MOTHER’
It was during the phase when the couple was trying everything possible to become parents that Debina got to know of her health issues. “When the lockdown happened, I was undergoing treatments and shuttling between doctors, which was time-consuming and monetarily draining,” shares Debina, who was diagnosed with endometriosis and adenomyosis during that time. “It’s an irreversible and incurable condition. I changed my lifestyle completely. I took steps to reduce the accumulation of toxins in my body and also stopped eating outside completely,” she says.
She continues, “The fight to become a mother lasted five years. I failed five times during the process, which included three IUIs and two IVFs. I also tried alternative therapies, like acupuncture and flower therapy. I would cry all the time because I held myself responsible for the failure. The feeling of reaching a dead-end is devastating. ”
‘EVERYTHING IS WORTH IT WITH A SOLID PARTNER’
The one person she gives all credit to is her husband Gurmeet. She elaborates, “My work, workouts, and having the right life partner kept me sane. It’s not a solo journey. The responsibility of having a child shouldn’t rest on just a woman’s shoulders; it’s on the couple. It’s a joint journey. Every time, I faced failure, I would talk it out with my husband. Gurmeet was always positive and made me believe that it was our journey.”
She shares, “I receive a lot of emails from women telling me that their husbands aren’t supportive, but they want to go through this journey to salvage their marriage. I want to tell them that if your husband isn’t with you now, a kid will not bring him back. Bring a child into this world only if your relationship is strong. The child is the harvest of love. Everything is worth it with a solid partner.”
‘I CAN’T WASTE MY TIME ON TROLLS’
A few months ago, Debina was trolled for not holding her baby Lianna properly in a picture that she shared on Instagram. Dismissing the incident, “I know what all I have gone through to become a mother. Why will I hold my baby in a way that she could fall? I would get upset initially over such comments, but then I realised that Lianna, my husband, and my family need my attention, not frivolous things like these. Having said that, I am mindful about what I post now.”
‘I AM WAITING FOR A GOOD PROJECT’
Debina can’t bear to be away from her little daughter. “I miss Lianna when I am not around her. The minute I reach home, I wash my hands and rush to her.”
While she does not rule out returning to acting, she is in no hurry to pick just about any project. “I am getting offers, but I am waiting for a good project to make a comeback with,” she says. “I have been shooting regularly for my brands, including the day I was discharged from the hospital. At some point, life has to be led normally,” adds the actress.
Even Salman Khan asked me when would I be a part of Bigg Boss-Debina Bonnerjee
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Hasti Doshi (BOMBAY TIMES; January 19, 2022)
Debina Bonnerjee, best known for her portrayal as Sita in Ramayan, has not been seen in a fiction show for a long time. She last appeared in Chidiya Ghar seven years ago. The actress says she loves the medium, but has stayed away from daily soaps for a reason.
She says, “I have been offered shows, but I am keeping away by choice. Currently, I am looking for some interesting work in the web space. Some people feel TV content isn’t good, but I like it and I think the audience likes to watch it, too, and that’s what really matters. Right now, I am explore other mediums.”
Recently, Debina appeared on Bigg Boss 15 as a guest. Would she ever be a part of the show as a contestant? She says, “Even Salman Khan asked me this when I went on the show and I said, let’s see. I have been offered the show earlier and due to some or the other reason, I never took it up. Never say never because you don’t know when you may end up doing what you say no to.”
On the personal front, Debina has been married to actor Gurmeet Choudhary for the past 10 years. Talking about their bond, she says, “Gurmeet and I are both not very social people. There are times when we are invited for a party, but just a day prior, we find reasons for not going! We are happy spending time with each other.”
So, what’s the secret behind their togetherness? “We don’t have any planned way of keeping our romance alive. Our bond is strong which keeps us going. We have a sense of honesty and we don’t force each other to do things. These little things help us keep the love and respect intact. Gurmeet and I feel safest and comfortable with each other, which is why I share everything with him and only him.”
A few months ago, everyone thought that the couple renewed their wedding vows. But that wasn’t the case, clarifies Debina. “Gurmeet and I had shot for a short film two years ago which released, so I shared a small clip from that film. That was a wedding sequence and people thought it was in real life,” she says.
The last 14 days felt like it was 14 years of vanvas-Gurmeet Choudhary and Debina Bonnerjee
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Gurmeet-Debina open up about battling Covid-19 and why it’s vital to be mentally stable at this time
Nishad Neelambaran (HINDUSTAN TIMES; October 15, 2020)
It was on September 30 that Gurmeet Choudhary and Debina Bonnerjee tested positive for Coronavirus. The couple, along with Bonnerjee’s parents, who also tested positive, has recovered after a span of two weeks. “The last 14 days felt like it was 14 years of vanvas. Debina and I had a lot of symptoms and we had thought since we are so much into fitness and follow a strict diet, we would probably have no symptoms. Initial three-four days were difficult,” Gurmeet tells us.
Debina, who is “extremely happy” to have tested negative now, is thankful that though her parents tested positive at the same time, they were both asymptomatic. “As Gurmeet and I were extremely unwell initially, we decided to get my parents tested as well. They tested positive, but were asymptomatic. Hence, they looked much fitter than Gurmeet and I, and that feeling helped us mentally,” she says.
Gurmeet, 36, admits it is important to be mentally stable during this period. “There were quite a few medicines given, and we used to sleep for about 17 to 18 hours a day. Besides, mentally, you feel a lot of pressure. You get to see a lot of negative news about the pandemic everywhere. But, we kept ourselves motivated,” he asserts.
On experiencing a strange sense of confusion while recovering, Debina says, “They say there is a certain kind of brain fog that happens during Covid-19, and I showed all of those symptoms (laughs). I was talking, and the next day, I would forget I said it. When you are in the moment, you don’t understand it, but when the confusion goes away in your brain, you realise the action wasn’t normal.”
The couple is, however, thankful that they were “all together” in this difficult phase. “Family thi saath me toh survive kar liya,” Gurmeet adds.
Ask what they have to say to people not following SOPs and Debina, 37, says, “In India, people don’t see and learn, they face it and then learn. Jab tak saare population ko nahi ho jata and 20% population nahi rahega, tab tak log nahi seekhenge. It is extremely serious, I don’t understand why people cannot get it.”
Debina Bonnerjee doesn't enjoy hubby Gurmeet Choudhary's steamy scenes
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Gurmeet Choudhary’s debut film Khamoshiyan had a cameo by his wife Debina Bonnerjee. In fact, Gurmeet had said then that every film that he does, his wife will appear at least in a cameo
Chaya Unnikrishnan (DNA; December 14, 2016)
Gurmeet Choudhary’s debut film Khamoshiyan had a cameo by his wife Debina Bonnerjee. In fact, Gurmeet had said then that every film that he does, his wife will appear at least in a cameo. However, that is not happening in his upcoming film Wajah Tum Ho. Says Debina, “I was busy with my TV show and could not be a part of his film, but I have sung the cover version of the title track.” The actress says she loves singing and is also trained in it.
“One day I was singing karaoke when my friend noticed me and it was his idea that I sing the cover version,” smiles Debina. Ask her what she feels about the steamy scenes Gurmeet has done with Sana Khan in the film and she says, “I have seen the film and I know what actually happens, why those scenes are required.”
So, is she okay with her hubby doing these scenes? “Both of us came to Mumbai to carve a niche for ourselves in the industry. Just because we got married doesn’t mean that it should put restrictions on him or that a single guy should have an edge over him. But I do not enjoy these scenes. They don’t bother me as long as I don’t see them again and again,” she says candidly adding that Gurmeet had discussed the scenes with her beforehand.
“He was pretty nervous about it, but I told him if he doesn’t do it with conviction, he won’t be able to convey the feelings.”
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