Ahead of the release of their film OK Jaanu, Aditya Roy Kapur and Shraddha Kapoor, while sharing a cup of black coffee, talk about the youth's perception of love and relationships...

How much do you relate with the core idea of OK Jaanu?
Shraddha: Times have changed. There's a lot of commitment phobia. I also probably feel that way. I am capable of it too. It's a prevalent dilemma. Our parents were quicker when it came to deciding on that one person they'd spend their life with. People now take longer to get that far in a relationship. Nowadays, we put ourselves before everything else.
Aditya: That's what makes our film relevant. Live-in relationships are on the rise and that is why writers are dwelling on the subject. I have so many friends in live-in relationships. People are holding their cards closer to their chest. They think aspirations might get interrupted because their relationships might get in the way. So, they are guarded about how much to give to a relationship. We agreed to do the film because it dwelled on the subject without being preachy.

But most parents don't subscribe to the idea of live-in relationships...
Aditya: True. There aren't many parents who'd let their kids do that. I don't know the pitfalls and the pluses because I haven't been in a live-in myself. But I have seen my friends. In some cases, it has quickened the process of ending a relationship. When you live in, you supposedly do everything that you're meant to do in that set-up. That doesn't make it any less or more sinful. For some of my friends, a live-in has only given them more clarity, and they've stayed in that relationship for years. Marriage is a man-made concept and everyone doesn't have to subscribe to it. I believe in it, but it might not work for everyone.
Shraddha: A friend's mother told her to live in with her boyfriend before rushing into a marriage. So some parents can be liberal too.

If you find a partner, would you give your relationship a shot like you do in OK Jaanu?
Shraddha: When I find the person that I love and want to spend time with, I'd be open to the idea of living in.
Aditya: I'm game too. Live-ins might be a positive way to explore a relationship, though it has to be at the right place and the right time.

What if parents disapprove?
Aditya: What's the point of rocking the boat there? Why make parents unhappy? They will be happy if they know that a decision makes us happy.
Shraddha: My parents are protective of me. They've begun to see me as a grown-up girl though for them, I'll be a baby. My happiness matters to them.

Do you think the older generation feels that this generation is on a shakier ground?
Aditya: Younger generations have historically been too damned by the older generations. My dad will always feel that the way they did things was better. It's like the Woody Allen film, Midnight in Paris, where as they go into the past, it only seems better.
Shraddha: There's an interesting overlap here. Like the older generation feels great that we have technical advantage.

But doesn't it also take a toll on relationships?
Shraddha: I've begun to stay away from my phone. This generation should have a long-distance relationship with its phones.
Aditya: Superficially, we're more connected. We are messaging all the time. We don't give each other that real time. Sometimes, it keeps you in a state of inertia. You keep rotten friendships going. When you sit with each other, you don't know what do to with certain people! When you talk to them for real, you'll discover whether your friendships are really for keeps.